Am I single?

I read this question a LOT in my Inbox, in social media Inboxes, and I always wonder why is it asked?

Jane Austen must have pondered the inevitable social demand that women marry, as it was the only financial and social answer for a woman who wanted a positive view of herself in society in her day.  A woman in her time was not allowed to own property.  That was 200 years ago.  Surely, we have progressed since then, that as a society we don’t frown upon women who wish to be independent?  We don’t call a single woman over 21 years old a spinster anymore, do we?

I was married for 7 years.  I was divorced.  It was a horrible experience in which I found myself not seen, not heard, not understood, held as a pretty trophy, not supported in growing.  Let’s just sum it up that it was not an experience I ever wanted to repeat.

I wanted the power to make my own decisions, to manage my own money, to steer my own course.  I am responsible for my own happiness.  I have made mistakes along the way, and I learned from them.  Being independent and supporting myself, making my own way has been thrilling to me, has spurred me to get up every morning and pursue being the best me.

I am in a committed relationship with myself.  I do self care.  I think about what I eat, do morning yoga, stretches, lift weights, do my administration work, schedule my appointments, work, garden, walk and hike.  I strive to have a balanced life.

I am in a very committed relationship with my dog, Ollie (Oliver Queen), who is my walking/hiking/yoga partner, best buddy and all around companion.  You, emotionally, cannot compete with him.  He is all about me being happy and taking care of him.  We have a schedule, a routine, he keeps me focused on it when I tend to be easily distracted.

I am in a committed relationship with my friends.  Almost all of my friends do Animal Role Play events and activities with me.  I also like to have my friends over to my home, I like to cook for them and enjoy an evening of delicious food and thought provoking conversation.

The avenues open to you to spend time with me are to support and attend Animal Role Play events which I share with the BDSM/Leather/Kink/Fetish Community and friends.  I do not attend my lifestyle events as a submissive, I attend as a Pony Trainer.

You are welcome to make an appointment and explore with me any kink, fetish, bdsm or companion or conversational adventure you wish.  My time is $350.00 per hour.  I will ask you for a deposit of $100.00 which is non-refundable if you cancel for any reason.

I sincerely hope this question is not from having a fantasy of dating and being my boyfriend or lover and being with me for “free”.  I don’t believe there is any actual FREE relationship, everybody asks for something that involves time, service, gifts, touch, sex, words. I have unfortunately already been a trophy, and I certainly don’t want to be someone’s Robin Pachino trophy.  I am really good with it being a fair deal that you give me $ for my time, we do the quality time, and you walk away, no strings attached.  This is an honest, uncomplicated relationship I understand.  This is a successful relationship.

Please make an appointment,  Come and have fun, Tell me your dog stories, tell me about your garden, what book you are reading, laugh, be held, let the good times roll.

Thank you for listening.