Interview with”Joy”

Age: 23

submissive/slave: slave

24/7 / weekend, etc., time frame: 24/7

Geographic area: California

Q: What drew you to bdsm?

A: I’ve always had fantasies of being overpowered both physically and mentally by a strong man and, I’m happiest when I’m serving….though, I never really knew what BDSM was until I was about 14 or 15. 

Q: Do you feel you were born to serve and please a Master? If not, why do

you serve and please a Master?

A: Not really “born to serve”, it’s just something that makes me feel like I’m complete.

Q: How did you know you needed the pain?

A: It’s another way to show my Owner my devotion.

Q: Did knowing how to please Master come naturally to you or were you taught

or was it something you figured out?

A: It comes naturally.  I like making him happy, I like knowing that I’m making his life easier, and I like seeing a smile on his face, knowing that I’m the one that put it there.

Q: Are there times when you are required to do an act and you have the

thought “i can’t”? If so, what do you do?

A: Yup.   My Owner doesn’t allow me limits or safewords, so it’s difficult at times to do the things he wants me to do, knowing in my head that it’s something that I, myself wouldn’t do if I didn’t have him in my life.  Occasionally, I get upset when he requires something I feel I can’t do and it may take a little bit to remind myself that I NEED to make him happy.  Once I realize that, I suck it up and deal.  And, in the end…I’m glad I went through it with him.  🙂

Q: Are you a slave or submissive? If you are a slave, is it 24/7? Was it

always this way? (Were you a submissive first for a length of time or did you

just accept the choice of slave from the start)

A: I’m a 24/7 slave.

Q: Are you one of many slaves? Are you the head of the house slave? and how

do you feel about situation? Are you poly also? or does this just not concern

or bother you?

A: Some guy I used to talk to called my Owner “super poly”.  I have no freakin’ clue what the difference between poly and super-poly is, but eh…super poly is kinda cute, so I’ll stick with that description for him.  My Master has been married to his slave for over 40 years and he has two others besides me who I haven’t met yet.  I work with his wife; she’s basically my employer and we get along just fine and dandy.  I used to say that I could never be in a poly relationship, only because I figured that I’d get jealous.  Since there’s absolutely *no* drama between any of us, things are working out.  Does his need for others bother me?  Nope; he’s a VERY extreme sadist and it’s a damn good thing that he’s got other chicks he can beat whenever he feels like.

Q: Does your total passion for pleasing Master get you past any concerns

about other women?

A: Yes.

Q: favorite task?

A: Going to work for him.

Q:hardest task/demand you did?

A: Wearing a diaper out in public while dressed up like a total whore.

Q: Do you work and have a life or are you 100% taken care of and told what

to do all day?

A: Hmm, both actually.  My Owner takes care of me, but doesn’t tell me what to do ALL day.  I usually plan out my day a day ahead of time and send it to him in an e-mail – this includes what errands I need to do, where I need to go, what I need to accomplish while at work for him, what I plan on wearing, eating and spending (if anything).  I work for my Owner – he owns a BDSM production company and I do secretarial work, movie reviews for his website store, and when we shoot movies, I usually help with behind-the-scenes footage or work on one of the cameras.  He doesn’t tell me what to do all day long – to us, that means that he’s a slave to me and I’m the one in control…and we definitely dont want that 😉

Q: Describe an average day:

A: I wake up, untie myself, do whatever I need to do to serve my Owner, clean, get his clothes out for him, and go to work for him.  Whatever he wants me to do, I’ll do.

Q: Do you have interests and hobbies or is your day spent pleasing Master?

A:  Pleasing my Master is definitely an interest!  But, I also enjoy photography, web and graphic design, travelling, shopping and I’m going back to school in January.

Q:Did you get sent to school to learn how to do a manicure/massage or any

other pleasure skills?

A: Not yet, but I’m going to learn how to do manicures and I’m probably going to take a couple classes to learn how to massage.  At the moment, he’s teaching me how to give the best blow job ever…’cause I kinda suck at it (and not in the good way)

Q: Do you and/or are you allowed to go clubbing/nightlife, out on your own,

girls night out, etc.?

A:  I’m allowed to do whatever, but it’s always with his permission first.  When I go out with friends, he knows where I am, who I’m with and what I’m doing because I always text him to keep him informed.  Yup, I’ve got an actual life 😉

Q: i noticed your photographs regarding piercing needles. Describe that

session, please?

A:  Kinda hard.  Needles scare the crap out of me and everything goes all fuzzy.

Q:Is getting permanent body jewelry an idea you entertain? or is it

something your Master wishes? is that something you would do if He told you to or do

you both need to want it?

A: I’ve already got my nipples pierced.  A couple months ago, he took me and we got larger gauge nipple rings.  Sometime in the future, we’re hoping for chastity piercings so he can control me even more.  It’s something we both want…and even though I’m not looking forward to having the chastity piercings put in, I’m looking forward to making him happy, and knowing that he controls my cunt 🙂

Q: i have never had a tattoo or piercing because i have felt my body belongs

to Master. None of my Masters have desired it or done it. Your thoughts?

A: Agh, guess I suck at being a slave, because I pierced my nipples before I was owned by my Master.

Q: i’ve noticed that in posts and e-mails submissive’s capitalize “Master”.

your thoughts?

A: It’s a nice thing to do, I guess.  I usually just cap “Master”, unlike other slaves who un-cap themselves and say “He” or “Him” mid-sentence.  I used to do that, but now, I could care less.  He knows I totally respect and adore him already.

Q: and your favorite toy is (only one)?

A: His hands.  They can choke me, pinch me, slap me…and make me feel SO small. 

Q: favorite toy set up while masturbating?

A: At the moment, it’s my vibrating toothbrush 😉

Q: what if your Master did not find you attractive or did not want you

sexually. Would you be happy serving him as he wished, serving his sadistic needs


A: No.

Q: once one just gives up the mental garbage and simply obeys, it all gets

much easier. your thoughts?

A: You can never give up the mental garbage because there’s always going to be something new that you’ve never experienced or felt before standing in the way…unless you’re a brainless twit.  If that’s the case, then feel free to jump off that bridge your Owner just ordered you to jump off of.