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| AbrasionDictionary term meaning a wearing, grinding, or rubbing away by friction. In BDSM play this would See also stimulating the surface of the body with abrasive materials such as rough silk, leather, sandpaper, brushes, etc |
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| Age PlayActing as if you were either younger or perhaps older than you really are. |
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| Anal SexAny sexual activity involving the anus. Examples are; rimmingAny sexual activity involving the anus. Examples are; rimming (oral), Butt / Anal Plugs, Dildos, and penile penetration. (oral), Butt / Anal Plugs, Dildos, and penile penetration. |
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| Anal PlugsA specially designed dildoA specially designed dildo for use in the anus that is shaped in a way so that it will not “fall out”. Most commonly inserted and left in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for “ass training” to stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in their ass. for use in the anus that is shaped in a way so that it will not “fall out”. Most commonly inserted and left in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for “ass training” to stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in their ass. (small) |
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| Anal PlugsA specially designed dildoA specially designed dildo for use in the anus that is shaped in a way so that it will not “fall out”. Most commonly inserted and left in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for “ass training” to stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in their ass. for use in the anus that is shaped in a way so that it will not “fall out”. Most commonly inserted and left in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for “ass training” to stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in their ass. (large) |
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| Anal PlugA specially designed dildoA specially designed dildo for use in the anus that is shaped in a way so that it will not “fall out”. Most commonly inserted and left in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for “ass training” to stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in their ass. for use in the anus that is shaped in a way so that it will not “fall out”. Most commonly inserted and left in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for “ass training” to stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in their ass. (public under clothes) |
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| Animal RolesGames in which one or more partners, usually the bottom, takes on the role of an animal. Most common is probably a dog, or puppy boy / girl though horses/ponies are also popular i.e. puppy – pony play. The ‘animal’ may imitate animal behavior (and may go as deep as creating oneself as that animal in their mind), wear items such as collars, leads, bridles and so on, or carry out tasks associated with animal behavior. |
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| Arm & leg sleevesPlay which involves binding the arms/legs of the submissive in an attempt to restrict mobility. (armbindersPlay which involves binding the arms/legs of the submissive in an attempt to restrict mobility.) |
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| AromasPlay which involves the use of certain aroma therapy to induce relaxation. Also referred to as “poppers”. In some instances these can be volatile compounds whose vapors cause temporarily increased heart and breathing rates, muscle relaxation, and a “rushing” feeling in the head. These types of play are popular in the gay and rave scenes, and often used in an S/m context. There are some dangers associated with their use. |
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| AsphyxiationCommonly referred to as “breath controlCommonly referred to as “breath control”. Refers to play involving control or restriction of air to the lungs and / or blood (oxygen) to the brain. Asphyxia includes hands over nose and mouth, chokingCommonly referred to as “breath control”. Refers to play involving control or restriction of air to the lungs and / or blood (oxygen) to the brain. Asphyxia includes hands over nose and mouth, choking, smothering, air tight hoods [may include tube(s)], plastics bags, sheet latex, strangling which is compression of the wind pipe – trachea to reduce or stop the flow of air into the lungs, ‘sleeper hold’ which reduces / stops blood flow (oxygen) to the brain as well as discharge of carbon dioxide via the blood stream back to the lungs; hanging where the body is suspended by the neck These actions are often used to create more intense orgasm. Remember, these activities can be and are extremely dangerous. Comma, brain damage even death is often the end result., smothering, air tight hoods [may include tube(s)], plastics bags, sheet latex, strangling which is compression of the wind pipe – trachea to reduce or stop the flow of air into the lungs, ‘sleeper hold’ which reduces / stops blood flow (oxygen) to the brain as well as discharge of carbon dioxide via the blood stream back to the lungs; hanging where the body is suspended by the neck These actions are often used to create more intense orgasm. Remember, these activities can be and are extremely dangerous. Comma, brain damage even death is often the end result.”. Refers to play involving control or restriction of air to the lungs and / or blood (oxygen) to the brain. Asphyxia includes hands over nose and mouth, chokingCommonly referred to as “breath control”. Refers to play involving control or restriction of air to the lungs and / or blood (oxygen) to the brain. Asphyxia includes hands over nose and mouth, choking, smothering, air tight hoods [may include tube(s)], plastics bags, sheet latex, strangling which is compression of the wind pipe – trachea to reduce or stop the flow of air into the lungs, ‘sleeper hold’ which reduces / stops blood flow (oxygen) to the brain as well as discharge of carbon dioxide via the blood stream back to the lungs; hanging where the body is suspended by the neck These actions are often used to create more intense orgasm. Remember, these activities can be and are extremely dangerous. Comma, brain damage even death is often the end result., smothering, air tight hoods [may include tube(s)], plastics bags, sheet latex, strangling which is compression of the wind pipe – trachea to reduce or stop the flow of air into the lungs, ‘sleeper hold’ which reduces / stops blood flow (oxygen) to the brain as well as discharge of carbon dioxide via the blood stream back to the lungs; hanging where the body is suspended by the neck These actions are often used to create more intense orgasm. Remember, these activities can be and are extremely dangerous. Comma, brain damage even death is often the end result. |
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| Auctioned for charityusually involves a person, DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. or submissive, willing to be part of a scene / play is ‘sold’ to the highest bidder as a charitable fund raiser. Even though the ‘sale’ is voluntary and the high bidder does not ‘own’ the person, his activity may be illegal in some locals / countries |
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| Ball StretchingPlay which involves any type of scrotal constraint / attachment involving weights or other means of pulling on the testicles and scrotum in order to provide a variety of sensations including discomfort and pain. |
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| BastinadoInvolves using an object to strike (beat) the bottom of the feet. This not only can be dangerous (cause permanent damage), but is (can be) very painful. |
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| Bathroom use controlScenes where the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. restricts or takes control over the submissive’s bodily functions through the use of techniques such as catheterizationScenes where the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. restricts or takes control over the submissive’s bodily functions through the use of techniques such as catheterization, enemasScenes where the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. restricts or takes control over the submissive’s bodily functions through the use of techniques such as catheterization, enemas, diapersWaterproof panties or cloth worn in BDSM play for the object of child-playing scenes. Also used in control scenes for controlling bodily functions., rubber pants, and possibly golden showers. Examples in play: House training a puppy, age playActing as if you were either younger or perhaps older than you really are., and golden shower play., diapersWaterproof panties or cloth worn in BDSM play for the object of child-playing scenes. Also used in control scenes for controlling bodily functions., rubber pants, and possibly golden showers. Examples in play: House training a puppy, age playActing as if you were either younger or perhaps older than you really are., and golden shower play., enemasScenes where the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. restricts or takes control over the submissive’s bodily functions through the use of techniques such as catheterization, enemas, diapersWaterproof panties or cloth worn in BDSM play for the object of child-playing scenes. Also used in control scenes for controlling bodily functions., rubber pants, and possibly golden showers. Examples in play: House training a puppy, age playActing as if you were either younger or perhaps older than you really are., and golden shower play., diapersWaterproof panties or cloth worn in BDSM play for the object of child-playing scenes. Also used in control scenes for controlling bodily functions., rubber pants, and possibly golden showers. Examples in play: House training a puppy, age playActing as if you were either younger or perhaps older than you really are., and golden shower play. |
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| BestialityPlay which incorporates the use of animals for sexual pleasure. Not to be confused with animal role playing. This form of play can be very dangerous. |
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| BeatingStriking the body with various objects or the hand. Typically administered as punishment in connection with childhood punishments. For example, the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. may administer a “beating” to an unruly submissive. (soft) |
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| BeatingStriking the body with various objects or the hand. Typically administered as punishment in connection with childhood punishments. For example, the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. may administer a “beating” to an unruly submissive. (hard) |
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| BlindfoldingPlay which involves temporarily blocking the submissive’s sense of sight. This type of play is essential when everyday objects are used to give unexpected sensations. Blindfolds come in many forms from the more expensive leather (full-head type) to the more inexpensive handkerchiefs, scarves, bandages. Safety Note: Do not make the blindfold too tight as to put pressure on the eyeballs. Although some people take blindfolding in stride, it can have unpredictable psychological effects and be extremely frightening for some people. |
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| Being ServicedPlay which involves just that. The DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. instructing the submissive to do exactly how He / She wants the submissive to perform sexually. (sexual) |
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| Being bittenScenes involving the biting of the skin to induce pain. Safety Note: Although certain types of nibbling/biting are quite safe, extreme biting causing breaking/bleeding of the skin is not recommended and can be dangerous if not carefully done. |
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| Breast/chest bondageThe restriction of a person’s bodily movements for erotic reasons using fastenings of various types or textures. Also used in S/m practices though with a heavier pretense. Examples; Rope, cuffs, chainsA strong metal type of bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material. Note: Always make sure you observe metal bondage rules and choose a chain and equipment that will withstand heavier strain., and other restraining apparatus.The restriction / bondageThe restriction of a person’s bodily movements for erotic reasons using fastenings of various types or textures. Also used in S/m practices though with a heavier pretense. Examples; Rope, cuffs, chainsA strong metal type of bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material. Note: Always make sure you observe metal bondage rules and choose a chain and equipment that will withstand heavier strain., and other restraining apparatus. of the woman’s breast / chest area for erotic reasons using various types of fastenings (i.e., rope, scarves, etc.). |
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| Breath controlCommonly referred to as “breath control”. Refers to play involving control or restriction of air to the lungs and / or blood (oxygen) to the brain. Asphyxia includes hands over nose and mouth, chokingCommonly referred to as “breath control”. Refers to play involving control or restriction of air to the lungs and / or blood (oxygen) to the brain. Asphyxia includes hands over nose and mouth, choking, smothering, air tight hoods [may include tube(s)], plastics bags, sheet latex, strangling which is compression of the wind pipe – trachea to reduce or stop the flow of air into the lungs, ‘sleeper hold’ which reduces / stops blood flow (oxygen) to the brain as well as discharge of carbon dioxide via the blood stream back to the lungs; hanging where the body is suspended by the neck These actions are often used to create more intense orgasm. Remember, these activities can be and are extremely dangerous. Comma, brain damage even death is often the end result., smothering, air tight hoods [may include tube(s)], plastics bags, sheet latex, strangling which is compression of the wind pipe – trachea to reduce or stop the flow of air into the lungs, ‘sleeper hold’ which reduces / stops blood flow (oxygen) to the brain as well as discharge of carbon dioxide via the blood stream back to the lungs; hanging where the body is suspended by the neck These actions are often used to create more intense orgasm. Remember, these activities can be and are extremely dangerous. Comma, brain damage even death is often the end result. |
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| BrandingMaking a permanent or semi-permanent scar on the skin by a variety of methods from burning with a hot metal object (as practiced on livestock but with much less dependable results, not to mention it is intensely painful and can result in serious 3rd degree burns). Cauterizing pens can be used with more dependable results and less risk of serious injury – infection etc. Seen by some as “body art”. Can also use temporary tattoos or markers. Used by Dominants to mark their property. Branding is not for the novice. |
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| Boot WorshipThe practice of play involving a fetish for boots / shoes. Commonly used for Domination and humiliation practices (i.e., licking or cleaning of the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions.’s boots, shoes or bare feet). |
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| BondageThe restriction of a person’s bodily movements for erotic reasons using fastenings of various types or textures. Also used in S/m practices though with a heavier pretense. Examples; Rope, cuffs, chainsA strong metal type of bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material. Note: Always make sure you observe metal bondage rules and choose a chain and equipment that will withstand heavier strain., and other restraining apparatus. (light) |
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| BondageThe restriction of a person’s bodily movements for erotic reasons using fastenings of various types or textures. Also used in S/m practices though with a heavier pretense. Examples; Rope, cuffs, chainsA strong metal type of bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material. Note: Always make sure you observe metal bondage rules and choose a chain and equipment that will withstand heavier strain., and other restraining apparatus. (heavy) |
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| BondageThe restriction of a person’s bodily movements for erotic reasons using fastenings of various types or textures. Also used in S/m practices though with a heavier pretense. Examples; Rope, cuffs, chainsA strong metal type of bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material. Note: Always make sure you observe metal bondage rules and choose a chain and equipment that will withstand heavier strain., and other restraining apparatus. (multi-day) |
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| BondageThe restriction of a person’s bodily movements for erotic reasons using fastenings of various types or textures. Also used in S/m practices though with a heavier pretense. Examples; Rope, cuffs, chainsA strong metal type of bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material. Note: Always make sure you observe metal bondage rules and choose a chain and equipment that will withstand heavier strain., and other restraining apparatus. (public under clothing) |
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| Breast whippingWhipping of the woman’s / submissive’s chest area using a variety of items which include: floggers, whips, cat tails, paddles, for erotic purposes. |
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| Brown showersBrown Showers (ScatBrown Showers (Scat) – This fetish involves human (or animal) feces. Although this type of play is said to be ‘safe’ if done correctly, the degree of safety is debatable and is not recommended for those faint of heart!) – This fetish involves human (or animal) feces. Although this type of play is said to be ‘safe’ if done correctly, the degree of safety is debatable and is not recommended for those faint of heart! (scatBrown Showers (Scat) – This fetish involves human (or animal) feces. Although this type of play is said to be ‘safe’ if done correctly, the degree of safety is debatable and is not recommended for those faint of heart!) |
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| CagesMost common is the use of a large animal cage. Construction of a cage can be of wood, steel, fencing material. Used to confine the submissive, for play or punishment. (locked inside) |
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| CaningOften people think canes are made of bamboo though bamboo is prone to splintering so rattan is preferred. Many feel caning produces the most pain. Care should be used since welts from caning are slow to rise and blood can be accidentally drawn if not constantly and carefully monitored. Caning should be limited to the fleshy part of the buttocks, upper thighs and nowhere else on the body. Caning if done wrong can be dangerous causing permanent damage, and is not for the novice.Striking the body with various objects or the hand. Typically administered as punishment in connection with childhood punishments. For example, the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. may administer a “beating” to an unruly submissive. |
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| Castration fantasyThere has been much confusion as to the actual meaning of this term. This refers to removal of the testicles; however, some people use it for the removal of any/all sexual organs of either sex. The removal of the testicles is sometimes referred to as Emasculation and a man who has had his testicles removed is referred to as a eunuch. This procedure causes permanent and significant changes to the body. Castration fantasies are actually quite common among the heavy S/m players and are played out in scenes involving cock and ball torture (CBT), permanent and play piercing, and even genital shaving. However, few people actually choose to make this fantasy a reality. It should be noted here that this is a serious surgical procedure and not something someone can teach themselves to do safely. This form of play is very dangerous. |
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| Cattle prodAn electrical prodding device used to herd animals, more frequently for cattle. Sometimes used in S/m play for “brandingMaking a permanent or semi-permanent scar on the skin by a variety of methods from burning with a hot metal object (as practiced on livestock but with much less dependable results, not to mention it is intensely painful and can result in serious 3rd degree burns). Cauterizing pens can be used with more dependable results and less risk of serious injury – infection etc. Seen by some as “body art”. Can also use temporary tattoos or markers. Used by Dominants to mark their property. Branding is not for the novice.” or serious hardcore pain play, and is considered dangerous play. (electrical toy) |
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| Cells/Closets (locked inside of) |
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| ChainsA strong metal type of bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material. Note: Always make sure you observe metal bondage rules and choose a chain and equipment that will withstand heavier strain. |
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| Chastity belts |
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| ChauffeuringRequiring one's submissive to "chauffeur" them around physically in vehicles or other types of transportation. |
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| ChokingCommonly referred to as “breath control”. Refers to play involving control or restriction of air to the lungs and / or blood (oxygen) to the brain. Asphyxia includes hands over nose and mouth, choking, smothering, air tight hoods [may include tube(s)], plastics bags, sheet latex, strangling which is compression of the wind pipe – trachea to reduce or stop the flow of air into the lungs, ‘sleeper hold’ which reduces / stops blood flow (oxygen) to the brain as well as discharge of carbon dioxide via the blood stream back to the lungs; hanging where the body is suspended by the neck These actions are often used to create more intense orgasm. Remember, these activities can be and are extremely dangerous. Comma, brain damage even death is often the end result. |
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| ChoresScenes where the Dominant requires the submissive to perform chores and / or domestic service in either sexually pleasing clothing (i.e., maid outfits) or naked. (domestic service) |
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| ClothespinsSmall pinning devices used for hanging clothes. Generally used in BDSM play as quite effective nipple clamps, testicle clamps, etc. Great for the bargain BDSM player! Be sure the wood doesn't become stuck to the skin while removing, as it will remove skin from body. You may elect to dip/coat the edges of the tip in latex to prevent this. |
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| Cock rings/straps |
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| Cock worshipPlay which involves the fantasy of worshiping the cock. Performed mostly by the submissive to the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions.. Scenes might include licking and / or fellatio. Even some female Dominants may use strap-ons that are worshiped by the submissive male or female. |
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| Collars (worn in private) |
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| Competitionsusually involves a person, DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. or submissive, willing to be part of a scene / play is ‘sold’ to the highest bidder as a charitable fund raiser. Even though the ‘sale’ is voluntary and the high bidder does not ‘own’ the person, his activity may be illegal in some locals / countries (with other subs) |
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| CorsetsA lingerie / binding type device worn to restrict the chest area and make the waist smaller. Worn by early 19th Century women as a form of formal dress to make one's self more appealing to the opposite sex. (wearing casually) |
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| CorsetsA lingerie / binding type device worn to restrict the chest area and make the waist smaller. Worn by early 19th Century women as a form of formal dress to make one's self more appealing to the opposite sex. (trained waist reduction) |
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| CuffsA leather, pvc, neoprin or metal bondageThe restriction of a person’s bodily movements for erotic reasons using fastenings of various types or textures. Also used in S/m practices though with a heavier pretense. Examples; Rope, cuffs, chainsA strong metal type of bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material. Note: Always make sure you observe metal bondage rules and choose a chain and equipment that will withstand heavier strain., and other restraining apparatus. device used to restrict movement. Usually locks around the limbs in order to place the submissive in a precarious position. (leather) |
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| CuffsA leather, pvc, neoprin or metal bondageThe restriction of a person’s bodily movements for erotic reasons using fastenings of various types or textures. Also used in S/m practices though with a heavier pretense. Examples; Rope, cuffs, chainsA strong metal type of bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material. Note: Always make sure you observe metal bondage rules and choose a chain and equipment that will withstand heavier strain., and other restraining apparatus. device used to restrict movement. Usually locks around the limbs in order to place the submissive in a precarious position. (metal) |
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| CuttingMaking a permanent or semi-permanent scar on the skin by a variety of methods from burning with a hot metal object (as practiced on livestock but with much less dependable results, not to mention it is intensely painful and can result in serious 3rd degree burns). Cauterizing pens can be used with more dependable results and less risk of serious injury – infection etc. Seen by some as “body art”. Can also use temporary tattoos or markers. Used by Dominants to mark their property. Branding is not for the novice. |
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| DiapersWaterproof panties or cloth worn in BDSM play for the object of child-playing scenes. Also used in control scenes for controlling bodily functions. (wearing) |
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| DiapersWaterproof panties or cloth worn in BDSM play for the object of child-playing scenes. Also used in control scenes for controlling bodily functions. (wetting) |
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| DiapersWaterproof panties or cloth worn in BDSM play for the object of child-playing scenes. Also used in control scenes for controlling bodily functions. (soiling) |
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| DilationThe term used when a woman's cervix is dilated (opened) to aid in childbirth. In BDSM play dilation occurs when a speculum (pelvic exam device) is used to open the cervix for medical scening. Safety Note: Care should be exercised and previous study should be done, before attempting this play. This form of play is dangerous. |
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| Double PenetrationPlay involving the penetration of two or more bodily orifices with various types of devices and / or genitalia, (i.e., penetration of the mouth / rectum / vagina, etc.) |
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| ElectricityUsing electricity in BDSM play seems a scary notion to most people, but it can be made safer by adhering to several rules:
Only use devices designed and intended for use on the human body, especially AVOID training shock collars, home made, improvised such as 'stereo stim', and modified devices.
Irrespective of what you see on web sites and/or hear from others, avoid placing contacts/electrodes above the waist especially on both hands, arms, breasts etc..
When using AC powered (utility - mains) devices be SURE the wiring (hot, neutral, and ground [if one]) is correct and the cord is in GOOD condition. Always avoid accidental grounding which could result in shock even electrocution.
Read the book, Juice written by Uncle Abdul. It discusses electrical play. There is also is a 9 page detailed booklet written by Lady Robin available at: LadyRobin-SaferE-Stim.html .
Watch for and attend e-stim / electric play demos - workshops whenever possible.
Popular devices include "TENS" units designed for the relief of muscle and back pain; muscle stimulation devices (EMS), several different e-stim power boxes, and "Violet Wands" (VW) use a radio frequency high voltage, very low current discharge. Many people use VWs above the waist as long as the eyes are avoided but because VWs are powered by household voltage, there always is a risk of malfunction, accidental grounding, etc.. All forms of e-stim - electrical play can be dangerous |
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| EnemasScenes where the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. restricts or takes control over the submissive’s bodily functions through the use of techniques such as catheterization, enemas, diapersWaterproof panties or cloth worn in BDSM play for the object of child-playing scenes. Also used in control scenes for controlling bodily functions., rubber pants, and possibly golden showers. Examples in play: House training a puppy, age playActing as if you were either younger or perhaps older than you really are., and golden shower play. (for cleansing) |
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| EnemasScenes where the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. restricts or takes control over the submissive’s bodily functions through the use of techniques such as catheterization, enemas, diapersWaterproof panties or cloth worn in BDSM play for the object of child-playing scenes. Also used in control scenes for controlling bodily functions., rubber pants, and possibly golden showers. Examples in play: House training a puppy, age playActing as if you were either younger or perhaps older than you really are., and golden shower play. ( retention/punishment) |
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| Enforced chastityIn BDSM / S/m circles, meaning the banning or physically preventing one from achieving orgasm or any form of genital stimulation. A means of domination over one's submissive. A device (lockable ) panty-type which when worn prevents any type of genital stimulation. |
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| Erotic Dance (for audience) |
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| Examinations (physical) |
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| Exercise (forced/required) |
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| Exhibitionism (friends) |
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| Fantasy rape |
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| Fantasy gang rape |
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| Fear (being scared) |
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| Fisting (anal) |
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| Fisting (vaginal) |
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| Flame play |
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| Following orders |
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| Foot worship |
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| Forced bedwetting |
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| Forced cross dressing |
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| Forced eating |
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| Forced homosexuality |
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| Forced heterosexuality |
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| Forced masturbation |
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| Forced nudity (private) |
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| Forced nudity (around others) |
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| Forced Servitude |
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| Forced smoking |
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| Full head hoods |
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| Gags (cloth) |
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| Gags (inflatable) |
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| Gags (phallic) |
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| Gags (rubber) |
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| Gags (tape) |
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| Gas masks |
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| Gates of Hell (male) |
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| Genital sex |
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| Given away to another Dom (temp) |
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| Given away to another Dom (perm) |
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| Golden Showers (on body) |
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| Golden Showers (on hair) |
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| Golden Showers (oral) |
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| Golden Showers (in vagina) |
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| Golden Showers anal) |
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| Gun play |
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| Hair brush spankings |
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| Hair pulling |
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| Hand Jobs (giving) |
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| Hand Jobs (receiving) |
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| Harems (serving with other subs) |
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| Harnessing (leather) |
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| Harnessing (rope) |
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| Having food chosen for you |
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| Having clothing chosen for you |
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| Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus) |
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| Head (rcv fellatio/cunnilingus) |
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| High Heel Wearing |
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| High Heel Worship |
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| Homage with tongue (non-sexual) |
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| Hoods |
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| Hot oilsPlay which involves the use of certain aroma therapy to induce relaxation. Also referred to as “poppers”. In some instances these can be volatile compounds whose vapors cause temporarily increased heart and breathing rates, muscle relaxation, and a “rushing” feeling in the head. These types of play are popular in the gay and rave scenes, and often used in an S/m context. There are some dangers associated with their use. (on genitals) |
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| Hot waxing |
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| Housework (doing) |
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| Human puppy dog |
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| Humiliation (private) |
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| Humiliation (public) |
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| Hypnotism |
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| Ice cubes |
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| Ice Cubes (in vagina) |
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| Ice Cubes (in asshole) |
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| Immobilization |
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| Including others |
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| Infantilism |
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| Initiation rites |
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| Injections |
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| Intricate (Japanese) rope bondageThe restriction of a person’s bodily movements for erotic reasons using fastenings of various types or textures. Also used in S/m practices though with a heavier pretense. Examples; Rope, cuffs, chainsA strong metal type of bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material. Note: Always make sure you observe metal bondage rules and choose a chain and equipment that will withstand heavier strain., and other restraining apparatus. |
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| Interrogations |
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| Kidnapping |
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| Kneeling |
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| Knife playMaking a permanent or semi-permanent scar on the skin by a variety of methods from burning with a hot metal object (as practiced on livestock but with much less dependable results, not to mention it is intensely painful and can result in serious 3rd degree burns). Cauterizing pens can be used with more dependable results and less risk of serious injury – infection etc. Seen by some as “body art”. Can also use temporary tattoos or markers. Used by Dominants to mark their property. Branding is not for the novice. |
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| Latex Clothing |
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| Leather Clothing |
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| Leather Paddles |
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| Leather restraints |
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| Lectures for misbehavior |
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| Licking (non-sexual) |
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| Lingerie (wearing) |
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| Manacles and Irons |
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| Manicures (giving) |
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| Massage (giving) |
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| Massage (receiving) |
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| Medal Paddles |
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| Medical scenes |
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| Modeling for erotic photos |
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| Mouth bits |
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| Mummification |
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| Name change (for scene) |
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| Nipple clamps |
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| Nipple rings (piercing) |
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| Nipple weights |
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| Oral/anal playThis is generally play where the anus may be penetrated with either beads, ice, dildos, anal plugsA specially designed dildoA specially designed dildo for use in the anus that is shaped in a way so that it will not “fall out”. Most commonly inserted and left in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for “ass training” to stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in their ass. for use in the anus that is shaped in a way so that it will not “fall out”. Most commonly inserted and left in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for “ass training” to stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in their ass., penis, or fist. RimmingAny sexual activity involving the anus. Examples are; rimming (oral), Butt / Anal Plugs, Dildos, and penile penetration. the anus with a finger or toys stimulates the nerves which can create a more intense orgasm. Inserting and playing with one’s prostrate gland (males) will cause increased orgasm. (rimmingAny sexual activity involving the anus. Examples are; rimming (oral), Butt / Anal Plugs, Dildos, and penile penetration.) |
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| Over the knee spankingStriking the body with various objects or the hand. Typically administered as punishment in connection with childhood punishments. For example, the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. may administer a “beating” to an unruly submissive. |
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| Orgasm denial |
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| Orgasm control |
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| Outdoor scenes |
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| Pain (severe) |
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| Pain (mild) |
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| Persona training (in scene) |
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| Personal modification (real) |
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| Phone sex (serving Dom) |
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| Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends) |
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| Phone sex (commercial provider) |
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| Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) |
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| Piercing (permanent) |
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| Plastic surgery |
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| Prison scenes |
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| Prostitution (public pretense) |
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| Prostitution (actual) |
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| Pony slave |
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| Public exposure |
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| Punishment scene |
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| Pussy/cock whipping |
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| Pussy worship |
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| Riding crops |
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| Riding the “horse” (crotch tort) |
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| Rituals |
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| Religious scenes |
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| Restrictive rules on behavior |
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| Role play (Incest)) |
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| Role play (Medical) |
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| Role Play (Office) |
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| Role Play (Switch) |
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| Role Play (Vampire) |
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| Rope body harness |
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| Rubber/latex clothing |
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| Saran wrap |
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| Scarification |
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| Scratching – getting |
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| Scratching – giving |
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| Sensory deprivation |
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| Serving |
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| Serving as art |
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| Serving as ashtray |
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| Serving as furniture |
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| Serving as a maid |
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| Serving as a toilet (urine) |
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| Serving as a toilet (feces) |
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| Serving as waitress/waiter |
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| Serving orally (sexual) |
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| Serving other Doms (supervised) |
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| Serving other Doms (unsupervised) |
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| Sexual deprivation (short term) |
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| Sexual deprivation (long term) |
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| Shaving (body hair) |
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| Shaving (head hair) |
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| Having (head hair) |
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| Single Tails |
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| Skinny dipping |
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| Sleep deprivation |
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| Sleep sacks |
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| Slutty clothing (private) |
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| Slutty clothing (public) |
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| Spandex clothing |
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| SpankingStriking the body with various objects or the hand. Typically administered as punishment in connection with childhood punishments. For example, the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. may administer a “beating” to an unruly submissive. |
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| Speech restrictions (when/what) |
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| Speculum (anal) |
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| Speculum (vaginal) |
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| Spitting |
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| Spitting in mouth |
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| Spreader bars |
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| Standing in corner |
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| Stocks |
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| Straight jackets |
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| Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) |
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| Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by) |
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| Strap-on-dildos (wearing) |
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| Strapping (full body beatingStriking the body with various objects or the hand. Typically administered as punishment in connection with childhood punishments. For example, the DominantThe one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls. The responsible One. A Dominant should be well versed in the areas of play to be explored, seek to be educated in those areas of a playlist not familiar with before engaging in play, be knowledgeable of health risks and dangers and take appropriate safety precautions. may administer a “beating” to an unruly submissive.) |
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| Suspension (upright) |
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| Suspension (inverted) |
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| Supplying new partners for Dom |
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| Swallowing feces |
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| Swallowing semen |
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| Swallowing urine |
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| Swapping (with one other couple) |
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| Swinging (multiple couples) |
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| Tampon training (in ass) |
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| Tattooing |
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| Teasing |
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| TENS unit (electrical toy) |
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| TENS unit (internal electrical toy ) |
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| Thumb cuffsA leather, pvc, neoprin or metal bondageThe restriction of a person’s bodily movements for erotic reasons using fastenings of various types or textures. Also used in S/m practices though with a heavier pretense. Examples; Rope, cuffs, chainsA strong metal type of bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material. Note: Always make sure you observe metal bondage rules and choose a chain and equipment that will withstand heavier strain., and other restraining apparatus. device used to restrict movement. Usually locks around the limbs in order to place the submissive in a precarious position. (metal) |
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| Tickling |
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| Triple Penetration |
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| Urethral Sounds (metal rods) |
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| Uniforms |
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| Vaginal dildoA specially designed dildo for use in the anus that is shaped in a way so that it will not “fall out”. Most commonly inserted and left in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for “ass training” to stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in their ass. |
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| Verbal humiliation |
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| VibratorA specially designed dildo for use in the anus that is shaped in a way so that it will not “fall out”. Most commonly inserted and left in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for “ass training” to stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in their ass. on genitals |
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| Violet wand (electrical toy) |
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| Voyeurism (watching others) |
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| Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) |
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| Video (watching others) |
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| Video (recordings of you) |
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| Water torture |
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| Waxing (hair removal) |
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| Wax Play |
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| Wearing symbolic jewelry |
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| Weight gain (forced) |
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| Weight loss (forced) |
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| Whipping |
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| Wooden paddles |
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| Wrestling |
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| Zipper |
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