Interview with “kat”

A 35 year old submissive, north – eastern  united states.

Q:  How did you get into the scene?  What drew you to bdsm?
A:   I’m not quite sure when I look back on my life I was always annoyed with the way my mother let my father do house hold chores and that she never doted on him. I have always taken a submissive role around men. When I was in my early 20’s I dated this guy Dave who was really into pain, well giving it anyway. He used to bite until I was bruised from head to toe, sometimes he would draw blood. I loved how the bruises looked and felt though I used to sob during it, it was a huge turn on. He is really the only link that I have to a bdsm type relationship before I knew there was SUCH a thing.

Q:  How would you state your position (slave, submissive, switch, etc.)?
A:  Slave

Q:  How long have you been  into bdsm?
A:  10 years or so.

Q:  How many Masters have you had?
A:  2

Q: If more than one, why?  what happened?
A: He cheated.

Cheating was an agreed on a deal breaker in this relationship.

Q: Do you feel you were born to serve and please a Master? If not, why do you serve and please a Master?
A:  I was born to be his everything.

Q:  How did you know you needed the pain?
A:  Pain is much like being choked is for me, I crave it. It comforts me…When things get overwhelming and I feel stressed pain is a good release for me.

Q:  Did knowing how to please Master come naturally to you or were you taught or was it something you figured out?
A:  It’s a natural fit.

Q:Are there times when you are required to do an act and you have the thought “i can’t”? If so, what do you do?
A:  There is no such thing as can’t. I tell my students that all the time.

Q:  You are submissive, was it always this way? (Were you a submissive first for a length of time, did you ever accept the role of slave and change back?)
A:  The first time he realized I had a slave mentality I think it shocked him. He just stared at me and said, the way you say such things one would think you were a slave.  i smiled and replied I am a slave, I’m your slave.

Q:  What is the difference between a slave 24/7 and a submissive to you?
A:  i am a 24/7 means there is no on off switch. I’m his to do as he sees fit. Whenever and wherever.

Q:  Are you one of many submissives? Are you the head of the house submissive? and how do you feel about situation? Are you poly also? or does this just not concern or bother you?
A:  I am the only one. I will always be the only one, though I am bisexual and would love to have play dates between him, myself and other women. 

Q:  Do you have play dates?  Have you ever acted on this want?
I haven’t acted on it with him in our current relationship. In the past yes I have.
Q:  What is the difference between you and a fuck toy?
A:  That depends, he teasingly refers to me as his toy. We would like to have “toys” over as play dates. The difference between myself and a fuck toy is we have a emotional relationship that is way more then just sex.  We depend on one another to see each other through everything.

Q:  Does your total passion for pleasing Master get you past any concerns about other women?
A:  We don’t have those type of issues. I’m very secure and stable in my relationship.

Q: Being a submissive to a Master, was your health record checked first? Do you have any concerns about health or do you just leave it to Master to worry about?
A:  I’m pretty independent and being he is deployed oversea’s I look after myself. I have no concerns about my health.

Q:  i was looking through your pictures, and it seems you love to travel and take photo journeys.  Do you travel with your Master?  Do you find time to play while traveling?
A:  My last travel was with him, I went to see him oversea’s on his military leave. As long as you take the batteries out of your toys it’s fine. My piercings have yet to set off a metal detector.

Q:  Do you travel with toys?  How do you get past customs?
A:  Keep the batteries out and know that someone will probably be looking through your suitcase. It doesn’t bother me any.

Q:  Being a submissive, do you work and have a life or are you 100% taken care of and told what to do all day?
A:  I work full time.

Q:  Do you have interests and hobbies or is your day spent pleasing Master?
A:  We’re both very active people but him being in the military has kept us in different parts of the world for the past year or so. We both like to run and keep in shape. We are very similar in likes and wants. The only hobby we don’t share is my passion for shark diving.

Q:  Did you get sent to school to learn how to do a manicure/massage or any other pleasure skills?
A:  Oh god no. He’s a military man and is quite happy to let me do all of that type of stuff to myself. He calls it the girly thing.
Q:  Do you and/or are you allowed to go clubbing/nightlife?  do you go to public (i call them – “slap and tickle”) fetish clubs?  Do you belong to any private bondage clubs?
A:  I’ve been in one years ago that wasn’t very nice in New York City. There isn’t much that I’m not allowed to do.

Q:  do you have any tattoos or body jewelry?
A:  I have one tattoo and nipple piercings.

Q:  Is getting permanant body jewerly/tattoos your idea? or is it something your Master wishes? or you both saw it, wanted it?
A:  On tattoos: I wish to have his name on the back of my neck in asian symbols. His jump wings on my vagina. The significance is once a girl is marked with jump wings no one else will go near that. I’m so proud to be his that I want his mark all over me.

Piercings: I always hated them. Then about a year ago I started to notice I thought they were very sexy. In December he mentioned how hot he thought they were and talked about how he’d like to tack my nipples down to a table and clit if they were pierced and torture me. I went out the next day and pierced my nipples. The clit I won’t do without him.

Q:  i have never had a tattoo or piercing because i have felt my body belongs to Master. None of my Masters have desired it or done it. Your thoughts?
A:  Devotion

Q:  Who were you trained by?
A:  No one.

Q:  and your favorite toy is (only one)?
A:  Can a cat o nine be considered a toy?

Q:  favorite toy set up while masterbating?
A:   I really don’t have one.

Q:  i am wondering, you wrote “Trouper’s Girlie Girl” as a subtitle on a profile, given that you choose to be a submissive, what if your Master did not find you attractive or did not want you sexually. Would you be happy serving him as he wished, serving his sadistic needs only? A: No but I would and I’d do anything to be desirable in his eyes again. ANYTHING

Q:  What is a GirlieGirl?
A:  It’s his nickname for me. He says I’m very girly. Love shoes, shopping, clothing and makeup, perfume, getting dressed up.

Q:  What do you perceive Master gets out of the relationship and do you percieve you get out of the relationship?
A:  He is EVERYTHING to me. I give him as much support as one can to someone who’s oversea’s. What he says to me is that he knows there is someone at home waiting for him that loves him best in all of the world. I love being that for him. For a long time he thought he’d spend the rest of his life alone. He is the most supporting loving person I have ever been with. He makes me feel like no matter what he is with me. He always looks after me no matter where in the world he is.

Q: i beleive that once one just gives up the mental garbage and simply obeys, it all gets much easier.  your thoughts?
A:  What mental garbage?

Q:  What you eat, your diet is premium. Before you play, and after, any special foods you eat?  what vitamins do you take?
A:  Before I play i usually stick to liquids. Protein shakes. Mainly my diet is high protein and veggies.

Thank you, kat, it has been very special talking with you.  You are a joyious GirlieGirl!