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BDSM and Erotic Delights in the Wild West

This article is written by Tony McGuinn for AskSubmissann.

For centuries now, people have been crediting the Marquis de Sade for the “invention” of BDSM.  In fact, he gets so much credit that sadism was named after him… a legacy that the state of Sade was probably not entirely happy about, especially since the Marquis’s real name was “Donatien Alphonse François.”

           

But, more importantly, the Marquis didn’t invent sadism.  He simply wrote prolifically about it.  It was his fetish, and his brand was a very specific type of violent, non-consensual sadism.  Elsewhere in the world, however, consensual BDSM practices flourished.  And nowhere did sexual appetites have a broader freedom than in the wide, open plains of the American frontier.

Prostitution and erotic services were legal in the United States until 1910-1915, when states began outlawing them as part of the “temperance” movement, which also went after alcohol.

Prostitution and erotic services were legal in the United States until 1910-1915, when states began outlawing them as part of the “temperance” movement, which also went after alcohol.

           

The writings of the Marquis de Sade were penned in the 1780s but not widely distributed or spoken of.  Indeed, the term “sadism” wasn’t coined for another century, by German psychologist Richard von Krafft-Ebing.  Meanwhile, like-minded individuals were writing their own books on the matter: in the late 1800s, John Camden Hotten republished “Fashionable Lectures: Composed and Delivered with Birch Discipline,” a series of stories from the 1750s including “Female Flagellants,” “Lady Bumtickler’s Revels,” and “Madame Birchini’s Dance.”  In 1748, John Cleland published “Memoirs of the Woman of Pleasure,” the story of Fanny Hill that also featured themes of bondage, discipline, sadomasochism, and power exchange.

           

But on the American frontier, these high-minded writings from across the pond were rare, if not impossible, to come across.  Cowboys were typically uneducated and, even if they were literate, toting books around on horseback wasn’t practical.  For the men of the frontier, life was nomadic… at least until the Madams showed up.

 

The first true towns of the Wild West owe their creation to the women who saw a business opportunity.  Saloons and brothels sprang up to capitalize on the appetites of men.  Work camps with tents evolved into the first true towns, with women providing more than just entertainment, but also laundry services, education, and discipline.

 

What’s more, these brothels contributed heavily to the local economies, not merely through the exchange of money, but by paying for business licenses and fees to operate their businesses legally.  According to Wikipedia, prostitution was a $6.3 million business in 1858, more than both the shipping the brewing industries combined.

 

So what’s all this have to do with BDSM?

 

In a lucrative economy with many competing women, the women who offered more exotic services got more attention.  Saloon “parlor games” often involved spanking or paddling.  (Whether the men were losing on purpose to get a free paddling or not is up to debate.)  Brothels offered a variety of girls who themselves offered a variety of “services,” not all of them sexual, but certainly all of them erotic.

 

To this end, many women in the old west carried clutches, fans, fly swatters, or hand-brooms.  In some vintage boudoir photos, hand-brooms are prominently featured on the walls, a winking suggestion of what erotic services the girls might offer.  And it wasn’t only the working girls who employed fans, canes, whips, or brooms; Fannie Porter, whose “boarding house” in San Antonio was the favorite of Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid, was rumored to have chased policemen with brooms after they tried to charge her girls with vagrancy.

Some saloons had “jail cells” or other cages where their girls could entertain.  The famous Bird Cage Theatre in Tombstone, AZ had 14 “cribs” (or beds), made to look like cages, suspended from its ceiling, a decoration that would later give rise to the go-go dancing cages of the 1970s.  If the Bird Cage sounds familiar to you, it’s probably because this “theater” was among the favorite brothels of wild west heroes such as Doc Holliday and “Diamond” Jim Brady.  (At least, it was before Doc Holliday and his paramour “Big Nose Kate” opened up their own saloon, The Grand Hotel, in 1880, also in Tombstone.)

 

Many brothels (billed as “theaters,” “hotels,” or “saloons”) had suggestive names.  In addition to the “Bird Cage,” there was the famous “Stockade” of Salt Lake City, UT, built in 1908.  A self-enclosed red light district whose construction was overseen by a local Madam, the Stockade was run by Dora Topham (known to her clients as “Belle London”), and included its own jail cell that was more for humiliation than for actual punishment.

 

In calling cards, license pictures, and glam shots of the wild west, women hinted at their services in titillating ways.  Some, for example, show women shooting pool: a distinctly un-lady-like activity, but one that would allow the woman to be featured holding a birch cane.  Others include women holding lassos or whips, despite not necessarily being cowgirls.  The purpose of ropes and whips was left up the imagination.

The overwhelming majority of brothels were headed by women who themselves had once been prostitutes and had “graduated” to the title of “Madam.”  Now businesswomen, they were generally fiercely protective of their girls, and offered a key role in their societies, paying for education, healthcare, churchs, and other community services.  One, Julia Bulette, donated so much money to the town of Virginia City, NV, that she was made an honorary firefighter, and in one of the last portraits ever taken of her, is shown posing with a fireman’s helmet.  Another, Pearl de Vere, offered regular medical exams and treatment for her girls in addition to letting them keep 40% of their pay.  (A visit to Pearl’s brothel, “The Old Homestead,” costs $250 a night… $6500 in today’s money.)

 

Madams might not have been “working girls” themselves but they were not afraid to act as Dommes, carrying with them riding crops, whips, clutches filled with rocks, and ivory-handled pistols, all items they could use to protect themselves, their businesses, their girls, and their clients.  (And they weren’t afraid to use them, either.  “Big Nose” Kate once broke Doc Holiday out of jail.)

 

Brothels like the House of Mirrors, the Bird Cage, the Stockade, The Grand Theatre, and Fannie Porter’s boarding house were places that offered exotic settings for exotic services, includingsilk sheets, electric chandeliers, and champagne, all rarities in the unsettled west.  There were so many brothels that they became a staple of most old-west towns, and some towns began publishing guidebooks to their red-light districts.  San Antonio and New Orleans both had “Blue Book” guides which one could purchase for 25¢ that billed themselves as “Directories of the Sporting District… an accurate guide to those who are seeking a good time.”

One of the best-remembered advertisements was that of Diddlin’ Dora’s, a “dance hall” in Deadwood, SD, which said it offered “The Three D’s: Dinin’, Drinkin’, and Dancin’!”  According to the Madam, Dora Dufran, it was “a place where you can bring your mother.”  This motto was meant ironically; Diddlin’ Dora’s, as the name implied, was a place for exotic pleasures, and one patron was famously quoted as saying, “I wouldn’t want my mother to know I had ever been there.”  Dora Dufran was a friend of the famous Calamity Jane, who herself was a working girl and a co-Madam in Deadwood.

 

The women of the West built their own culture, and most had likely never heard of the Marquis de Sade.  Exotic and erotic services offered in the Wild West were a mixture of their own invention, and what their customers wanted from them.  BDSM is prevalent across many cultures, not just 18th century Europe.  On the American frontier, it prospered for over a century, a home-grown practice that created a new class of feminine self-made millionaires, and helped build and sustain entire towns.

(A note on conversion rates: $1 in 1880 was worth about $25 today.)

FURTHER READING AND SOURCES:

Print:

 

  • Birchell, Donna Blake. “Wicked Women of New Mexico.”  The History Press; First Edition, First Printing edition (March 4, 2014).
  • Enss, Chris. “Wicked Women: Notorious, Mischievous, and Wayward Ladies from the Old West.”  TwoDot; First edition (February 20, 2015)
  • Rutter, Michael. “Boudoirs to Brothels: The Intimate World of Wild West Women.”  Farcounty Press (October 10, 2014).
  • Rutter, Michael. “Upstairs Girls: Prostitution in the American West.”  Farcountry Press (September 1, 2005).
  • Seagraves, Anne. “Soiled Doves: Prostitution in the Early West.”  Wesanne Publications; First Edition edition (June 1, 2003).

 

 

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Photo Credits:

 

Photos by Perry Gallagher January 2020

 

Yes, I am going on tour to Boston!

Domestic flights are flying.  My plane on return to Los Angeles from Philadelphia was half full.  I expect the same.  I do the sanitizing where I sit on the plane thing but I have always done this but you never know what the person before you did in that seat, if they had a cold, if they wiped their dirty hands everywhere, etc.

I am very aware of common surfaces, I wash my hands, I carry sanitizer and use it as needed.  I don’t touch my face because I was taught to as a child.  Touching your face gives you blemishes and colds/flu, etc.  My Grandmother was very keen on not touching your face and I was disciplined not to.

While restaurants cannot have in restaurant dining, many are offering take out and the hotels have in room dining on a limited menu.  I am staying at very nice hotels.

I am not a convention or a large group gathering, I am one healthy person.  You may come see me.  If you are from a place with curfew, make a daytime appointment.

 

If you are not feeling well, if you have COVID-19 symptoms, stay at home and self isolate yourself.  Do this for everyone.  

Do not trust the media or interpretations of what is happening.  They have their own agenda.

Govt. Center for Disease Control:  https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html

I am not traveling Abroad, I am traveling Domestic.  

Govt. on Travel :  https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/traveladvisories/ea/covid-19-information.html

 

See you in Boston for fun times. 

Be safe.  Do the things.  Wash your hands, beware of common touch surfaces, don’t touch your face.  Be kind to one another.  Please.

Am I single?

I read this question a LOT in my Inbox, in social media Inboxes, and I always wonder why is it asked?

Jane Austen must have pondered the inevitable social demand that women marry, as it was the only financial and social answer for a woman who wanted a positive view of herself in society in her day.  A woman in her time was not allowed to own property.  That was 200 years ago.  Surely, we have progressed since then, that as a society we don’t frown upon women who wish to be independent?  We don’t call a single woman over 21 years old a spinster anymore, do we?

I was married for 7 years.  I was divorced.  It was a horrible experience in which I found myself not seen, not heard, not understood, held as a pretty trophy, not supported in growing.  Let’s just sum it up that it was not an experience I ever wanted to repeat.

I wanted the power to make my own decisions, to manage my own money, to steer my own course.  I am responsible for my own happiness.  I have made mistakes along the way, and I learned from them.  Being independent and supporting myself, making my own way has been thrilling to me, has spurred me to get up every morning and pursue being the best me.

I am in a committed relationship with myself.  I do self care.  I think about what I eat, do morning yoga, stretches, lift weights, do my administration work, schedule my appointments, work, garden, walk and hike.  I strive to have a balanced life.

I am in a very committed relationship with my dog, Ollie (Oliver Queen), who is my walking/hiking/yoga partner, best buddy and all around companion.  You, emotionally, cannot compete with him.  He is all about me being happy and taking care of him.  We have a schedule, a routine, he keeps me focused on it when I tend to be easily distracted.

I am in a committed relationship with my friends.  Almost all of my friends do Animal Role Play events and activities with me.  I also like to have my friends over to my home, I like to cook for them and enjoy an evening of delicious food and thought provoking conversation.

The avenues open to you to spend time with me are to support and attend Animal Role Play events which I share with the BDSM/Leather/Kink/Fetish Community and friends.  I do not attend my lifestyle events as a submissive, I attend as a Pony Trainer.

You are welcome to make an appointment and explore with me any kink, fetish, bdsm or companion or conversational adventure you wish.  My time is $350.00 per hour.  I will ask you for a deposit of $100.00 which is non-refundable if you cancel for any reason.

I sincerely hope this question is not from having a fantasy of dating and being my boyfriend or lover and being with me for “free”.  I don’t believe there is any actual FREE relationship, everybody asks for something that involves time, service, gifts, touch, sex, words. I have unfortunately already been a trophy, and I certainly don’t want to be someone’s Robin Pachino trophy.  I am really good with it being a fair deal that you give me $ for my time, we do the quality time, and you walk away, no strings attached.  This is an honest, uncomplicated relationship I understand.  This is a successful relationship.

Please make an appointment,  Come and have fun, Tell me your dog stories, tell me about your garden, what book you are reading, laugh, be held, let the good times roll.

Thank you for listening.

 

 

New Toy Bag

This is what I will be bringing on tour this year, starting March 2nd in Washington DC

 

 

Clover Clamps, Weighted Barrel Clamps, Rubber tipped clips

 

 

Finger Braided whip, Fuzzy paddle, Leather Paddle, London Tanner Paddle

 

 

Deerskin Flogger, nylon tassel flogger, 2 crops, paint stick, leather slapper

 

Bunny flogger, bunny skin, 2 sized ball gags, blindfold

 

 

leather neck collar and leather leash, carobiners (assorted sizes), door attachment suspenders, leather cuffs for wrists and ankles, black cotton rope no chord cut into smaller sizes, green nylon rope

 

Strap on with small silicone dildo or large silicone optional vibrating dildo, remote controlled silicone skinned butt plus, silicone anal beads (2 sizes), tristan butt plus (silicone)  and small/medium/large nitrile gloves

 

Small/Medium/Large vibrating gloves, nipple and pussy inflate cups with chapstick, blindfold, massage vibrator

 

ear plus, tickler (not pictured), rechargeable Magic Wand, silicone skin vaginal vibrator, clit vibrator (silicone skin), remote controlled butterfly, small bullet vibrator.

 

 

 

 

What condoms do I bring?

TROJAN™ Ultra Thin Lubricated Condoms are thinner than standard TROJAN™ Latex Condoms – designed for a more natural feeling.

  • Low latex odor
  • Thinner than standard TROJAN™ latex condoms
  • Special reservoir end for extra safety
  • Made from premium quality latex to help reduce the risk of pregnancy and STIs
  • Each condom is electronically tested to help ensure reliability

MAGNUM™ Lubricated Condoms – The Gold Standard™ in comfort and protection.

  • Larger than standard latex condoms for extra comfort
  • Tapered at the base for a secure fit
  • Silky smooth lubricant for comfort and sensitivity
  • Special reservoir end for extra safety
  • Made from premium quality latex to help reduce the risk of pregnancy and STIs
  • Each condom is electronically tested to help ensure reliability

MAGNUM™ XL Lubricated Condoms are intended for men who feel that current regular and large size condoms are too small. Other men may experience slippage with this extra large size condom. The Gold Standard in comfort and protection.

  • Larger than original MAGNUM™
  • 30% larger than standard condoms
  • Tapered at the base for a secure fit
  • Silky smooth lubricant for comfort and sensitivity
  • Special reservoir end for extra safety
  • 30% larger than standard condoms
  • Each condom is electronically tested to help ensure reliability

SKYN ORIGINAL

  • Made from SKYNFEEL™, a non-latex soft material that you’ll find barely noticeable but as strong as premium latex.
  • Lubricated with long-lasting ultra-smooth lubricant
    • Ideal for people with latex allergies or latex sensitivity
  • Straight shape with reservoir end
  • Combines the strength of premium latex with the sensitivity of an ultra thin condom
  • Nominal width: 53mm

 

sometimes I will have:

TROJAN™ BARESKIN™ Lubricated Condoms – Trojan’s thinnest latex condom ever.

  • 50% THINNER than our Ultra Ribbed Ecstasy™ Condom
  • Silky smooth lubricant for comfort and sensitivity
  • Special reservoir end for extra safety
  • Made from premium quality latex to help reduce the risk of pregnancy and STIs
  • Each condom is electronically tested to help ensure reliability

If you want something else, bring it with you.  😉

Health Advice

Copied from Trojan website:

Health Advice

You may think you know all about STIs, but what you don’t know could put you at risk. Take a few minutes and get the facts for a happier, healthier sex life. If you are concerned about your sexual health, discuss with your physician or doctor.

What is an STI?

STD stands for Sexually Transmitted Disease. These diseases are sometimes known as Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). An STI is any infection that is passed by body fluids during vaginal, anal, or oral sex. These fluids include semen (cum), vaginal fluids (the wetness in the vagina) and blood. A latex condom acts as a barrier to prevent these fluids from being exchanged. But, an STI can also be spread by contact with the skin of the genital or anal area if infection is present. It can also be spread by contact inside of the mouth. If you are sexually active, it is recommended that you are tested early and often for STIs. 

 

Am I at risk for STIs?

If you are sexually active you may be at risk for STIs. Remember, when you have sex with someone, you are potentially exposed to STIs that anyone they’ve had sex with before you may have had.

You may have heard them referred to by funny names, so to set the record straight, some common types of STIs, along with their associated symptoms and consequences, are listed below:

AIDS-HIV
(Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome/Human Immune-Deficiency Virus)
 
CHLAMYDIA
 
GONORRHEA
(Clap, Drip, GC)
 
HEPATITIS B VIRUS
(HBV)
 
(GENITAL) HERPES
 
SYPHILIS
(Syph, The Pox)
 
TRICHOMONIASIS
(Trich)
 
(GENITAL) WARTS
(HPV) Human Papillomavirus

If used properly, latex condoms will help to reduce the risk of transmission of HIV infection (AIDS) and many other sexually transmitted diseases.

Copyright 2006, Church & Dwight Co., Inc. All Rights Reserved.

 

What I want you to know

1. Always Show Respect

You might have a bit of cognitive dissonance when you are paying for the experience of realizing your fantasy or actually doing a fetish or kink you have only thought about or have only seen pictures of before.  It’s the whole issue of doing something you fantasize about that also scares or disgusts you OR you are adventuring into the unknown, something you have never done before — and this is true for those that solicit women, as well as those that solicit men. Regardless of how you feel about us personally, we are still human. And that means we’re owed respect. Here are some ground rules we’d like you to follow:

  • Sex workers still retain the right to say no.
  • You should always pay for the activities upfront and have exact change, or if your bills go over, you give that and it is on you.
  • Don’t make a sex worker ask for payment. Everything will go much better if you pay at the very beginning.
  • Unless a sex worker agrees ahead of time, always plan to wear a condom.
  • Never use violence.  Negotiate your play.  The difference between abuse and bdsm play that includes erotic spanking, flogging, etc. is agreed upon negotiation, which makes it consensual.
  • Unless other arrangements have been made, you must pay in cash; arriving with gifts, alcohol, drugs, gift cards or a credit card won’t suffice.
  • Do not haggle nor barter the sex workers price.  It demonstrates a lack of respect of their limits.  Think about it: you ask the price, they state it and then you are saying no and moving the goal post.  If a sex worker can’t trust you to respect their price why should they trust to respect any of their limits?
  • And finally, remember that sex workers will have boundaries (limits) which are personal to them.  Respect them.

2. What You See In Porn Isn’t Necessarily What We Want IRL

When watching any type of porn, what you see on the screen is performed by actors and actresses. That means it’s an act; it isn’t always a real expression of what real people want and do in real life.

Keep that in mind as you’re begging for us to perform calisthenics in the bedroom. While many sex workers are more than happy to indulge your fantasies, they still may decline (see the last bullet above).

That’s why it’s important to agree ahead of time as to what will go down. Before diving into the fun stuff, make sure you agree on things, such as:

  • What type of play and sex will happen, and for how long.
  • The exact price.    
  • The precise venue (keeping in mind that the sex worker will want to communicate locale to a friend in advance).
  • Expectations, including whether penetration will take place, nudity, role play, toys, how a fantasy plays out for you or dressing up.

3. Master Some Basic Lingo

Words matter. Whenever there’s an exchange of money, it’s doubly important to speak the same language. As in every industry, sex workers share common lingo; get the terms right and you’ll have a much smoother, safer interaction.

Most sex workers prefer the term “sex worker” over “prostitute” or “whore.”  For one, the latter has derogatory connotations, and for another, it dismisses the fact that the sex worker is, in fact, working.  Yes, you can negotiate “name calling humiliation” making it consensual.

GFE stands for girlfriend experience, and it comprises your traditional, vanilla sex that you’d expect in any normal relationship. Cuddling, kissing, oral, penetration — all the usual acts of affection you’d expect with an emotional bond. Except there isn’t any nagging nor any laundry nor any “honey do list” to worry about.

A-Levels means anal penetration.

Click for a full list of Hobbyist Acronyms

Sex workers are often compensated according to the amount of time together.  If you ask for a “quickie”, expect 10 to 20 minutes of a person’s time. A “short time” generally means about a half hour and an “all-nighter” means you’ll get to play until morning.  (I personally have a minimum of one hour and very rarely do an all-nighter because I sleep at night.  I am simply not a night person.)

4. Keep It Clean

This one has multiple meanings.

On a very basic level, it means that you should shower, brush your teeth, and take care of basic hygiene needs before meeting up. This is just a common courtesy that makes it more enjoyable for everyone involved.  If you are coming from a gym and want to take a shower first, ask if you can do that.  Most sex workers will have zero problem letting you shower first.  Ask if the time you take to shower counts into time of your session so you do not assume anything and have ruined expectations.

It also means that you should do your best to arrive sober. Not drunk, not high.  If you are wanting to be super drunk or high, not fully aware, not fully present, why are you showing up?  You are paying for an experience, be sober so that you may experience it.  A drink or having a drink together is different.

Finally, it means plan on wearing a condom. Always. Sex workers are concerned about their sexual health, and whether it be for oral or penetrative, chances are high that they’ll expect you to dress for the occasion. 

Want to give a Gift? I would love these toys!

 

Off Beat by Godemiche

 

Satisfyer Vibes Power Flower G-Spot Vibrator and Clitoris Stimulator with Fluttering Petals and Retaining Ring

 

 

Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator

 

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Rough Sex and Kinky Sex Ideas

May be your thing, and it may not.  You might like some things on the menu and find others “meh.”  That’s fine.  It is about exploring and discovering what turns you on, what works for you.

 

Communication

is key and important in having your partner on this adventure with you being able to bring you more pleasure.  If it isn’t working for you, say so. 

  • “not working, let’s try…”

If you find an idea boring or just don’t enjoy it, say so. 

If you like it, words like:

  • “Just like that, just like that”
  • “Yes” “Yeah” “Yes baby”
  • “Mmmmmmmmm” “Ooooooooooo”
  • “I’m going to cum” “You’re going to make me cum”

are great “YES!” signals.

 

Blindfolds

are a great starting point.  With the eyes closed you smell and feel more.

Run an ice cube over his nipples, penis, balls, and lips.

Lick that cock!  From the base to the tip, all the way around, then focus on the tip, using the least amount of pressure possible.  Change it up and go to the balls, little licks all around, then gently swallow.  I like to hum while I swallow and lick, remember that everyone is different and while some may like their balls pulled on, some don’t.  Going back to the cock, swallow and roll your tongue around his shaft (like outlining a circle).  Wetter is better, so if you find yourself spitting up saliva, don’t swallow – spit it on his penis.  I think the most important aspect is to have fun and enjoy his cock.  Give your mouth a break with your hands and fingers if you want to.

Restraints

Ties make great bondage restraints.  If your bed doesn’t have posts, put rope in between the mattress and the box spring, then tie the rope to the tie.  I like scarves or ties because they are thicker and softer than rope, but whatever your taste regarding roughness is what counts.  Not too tight to cut off circulation and turn a hand purple, not to loose.

The opposite technique is to wrap his wrists with toilet paper (just enough to catch and stay) and tell him he only received pleasure while the paper is intact, if he rips it, the pleasure is over.

Spanking

Some find it hot, and arousing, some don’t.  Soft taps to a solid slap, how you spank makes a difference.  Slap and stay your hand, slap and drag your hand, slap and drag your hand using your nails lightly.  It is all sensations, some your partner will like more than others, find out their favorites.

Punishment and Reward

She cums first or he gets a spanking,

Ten minutes of in and out, different positions, if he cums too soon, he has to bring her to orgasm before you are done or he gets chores and a fix it list.

Make your own list of what you think are punishments and what you consider rewards.

Passionate Kissing

Taking your hands over your partners body or holding close or holding their cheeks while passionately kissing, and not just tongue action, use those lips soft lips.

The Rough UP

Nails over body

Use your body to pin down arms and legs.

When you want to change position, take control and try to move your partner’s body into the new position with some force, so they can feel your strength.

Take hold of your partners hair at the nap of the back of the head and hold firm.  Take their mouth over your body where you want it to go.

Regarding Hair Pulling: 

Hair pulling can be pleasurable, kinky and erotic or plain painful depending on how you do it. 

THE RIGHT WAY

  1. The pleasurable part of everyone’s scalp is the very back. I’m talking about the opposite side of your head to your face.
  2. Start with your four fingers on the back of their neck, below the hairline. Then slowly push them upwards.
  3. When you have gone about  an inch above the hairline and extended your fingers,  grab their hair with some gentle force. Now, you’re not trying to pull it out of the scalp, but, equally, you shouldn’t be so gentle that they can’t feel it either.
  4. Start slowly pulling downwards, allowing their hair to gradually slip out of your grip as you do it.  After a few times of this, grap on firmer and direct the head.

Public Play

I love restaurants with long tablecloths, and an egg with a remote in my partners hands that looks like any cell phone, remote type thing.

Role Playing

  • Secretary/Boss fantasies
  • Action Hero fantasies
  • Getting blackmailed.
  • Strangers at a bar
  • Being “forced” into having sex.
  • Repaying a debt with sexual favors.
  • Being a sex slave at a resort
  • Being a masseuse that does whatever gets the job finished.
  • Having your innocence corrupted by someone more experienced…or being the corrupter yourself.
  • You have placed an ad on craigslist for “?” and this person answered
  • Being a bored housewife or househusband.
  • One of you is in an authority position like a fireman, cop, doctor, the UPS guy, crooked lawyer, professor, coach, slave owner, etc.
  • One of you is in a submissive position like being a criminal, student, intern, slave, etc.