i am a submissive, a female with no penis to humiliate, and most of my experience is in this position. Therefore the correct response is “No, i do not have much experience with small penis humiliation.”
It is my understanding that BDSM play, no matter what your play list, should be fun to engage in or something is wrong. If the humiliation play is not fun, it can be emotional abuse. It is a fine line. i’m all for humiliation play that gives the bottom a tougher skin, lets the bottom see how ridiculous the thought that they are inadequate is. Every person is complete and whole and beautiful. It only matters what you think about yourself, not what others think about you.
Growing up with my Grandmother there were many hours after being caught in some behavior she deemed “immoral” that i sat and listened to her calling me a whore, a slut, having no more morals than an alley cat, etc., etc. For those whom wish to engage in humiliation play with me – i tell them to give it their best shot. When one embraces that they are a slut and rejoices, relishes whom they are, to be a slut and a whore is not demeaning to their spirit. It is fun for me to engage in humiliation play with a Dom who wishes to call me a slut and whore and that i am his cum dumpster.
A small penis man should have an attitude of “whoo!hoo! i have a small penis. i can fuck you ’til the cows come home in all positions and never hit your uterus or hurt you no matter how small your vagina is. i am THE stud you want to fuck for hours and hours.”
For that man, small penis humiliation play is fun. i engage in small penis humiliation play as that man’s Top when requested.
For too many it is not so, i will not take part in damaging my fellow human being.
i once had a man call me, whom wished me to humiliate his penis. He had very long foreskin. He was not circumcised. He had for years engaged in penis humiliation play with Dommes. i refused. i told him this issue is fixable. He honestly felt bad about how he looked, he had issue with his appearance. i told him to go to a qualified doctor and have it corrected so that his image matched to how he saw himself as being with a handsome penis – a penis that looked as he thought it should. He called me back several months later. He had had the operation. He was a changed man on the inside as well as the outside, transformed in how he engaged in being alive and the possibilities that were available to him.
A D/s relationship is based on Honor, Respect, Honesty, Accountability, Transparency, Commitment, Working Communication and Trust. i’m there to support my Dom/Domme in being all they can be, in being the best person possible, in being able to and supporting that person in achieving their goals. The Dom/Domme is there on the same level for me. To the degree that i’m committed to being the best me and achieving my goals and to the degree that they are committed to being the best them and achieving their goals, we have a powerful, working relationship.
That relationship translates in life to looking and sounding like this:
Dom: “I want to be the best fire player in the world.”
sub: great. i’ll support you in that. i’ll research everything i can about it, we’ll look at all the techniques, determine how to safely, sane and consensually play, i’ll be available to practice on and ask others to practice with you when possible, so that you can be the best fire player in the world.
No matter if this is a lifestyle relationship, a club playing relationship or a paid session, the people involved/engaged in play should be there for the positive outcome of both people.
Thank you for the question. ;-D