Interview with “Poeme”

Handle (name): Poeme
Age: 41
submissive/slave: submissive primarily but known to switch. bisexual.
24/7 / weekend, etc., time frame: Our dynamic is 24/7 though we do not live together currently.
Geographic area. SouthEastern US (NC)

Q: What drew you to bdsm?
A: I’ve always had a sexually submissive personality on the whole and developed an intense erotic interest in spanking as a child.

Q: Do you feel you were born to serve and please a
Master? If not, why do you serve and please a
A: No. It pleases him that I serve him and it pleases me to please him. Convoluted sounding, yes? Basically, I have more difficulty in relationships not serving than serving.

Q: How did you know you needed the pain?
A: Pain turns me on. I find it erotic. Not all pain is erotic…stubbing one’s toe certainly isn’t…but if it comes from him I find it a wild turn-on.

Q: Did knowing how to please Master come naturally
to you or were you taught or was it something you
figured out?
A: Not sure what you mean here. Sexually? Years and years of experience with many different partners taught me. With all I simply asked what pleased them. Some can tell you and with others it’s more trial and error. The Dom and I utilize both.

Q: Are there times when you are required to do an
act and you have the thought “i can’t”? If so,
what do you do?
A: Yes. He is wildly turned on by the thought of adding a female playmate to our dynamic. I’m fine with it once we are living together 24/7 but before then the thought is a complete and resounding gut-level “NO!” When he told me of his desire, I thought about it for quite some time. He was pushing me to find a playmate and I finally had to tell him that I couldn’t at this time.

Q: Are you a slave or submissive? If you are a
slave, is it 24/7? Was it always this way? (Were
you a submissive first for a length of time or
did you just accept the choice of slave from the
A: I have always identified as a submissive. I think in actual day to day living there really isn’t a whole lot of difference. The Dom ultimately desires me to identify as his slave. I wish this as well once we are together 24/7. When the Dom and I created our own collaring ceremony last year, we took different titles for one another: Vainqueur and vaincue. These have specific meaning for us alone and serve to identify to us that we have a unique relationship to one another outside the bdsm common definitions.

Q:What is the difference between a slave 24/7 and
a submissive to you?
A: A slave submits once – when they choose a Master and give themselves to him. There are no limits other than his. The slave retains the right only to leave the relationship and no others within it. One must choose wisely. The Master is responsible for the slave and their well-being.

A submissive continually chooses to submit. They retain their own limits and must consistently weigh the consequences of activities they submit to.

It’s similar to the differing feels of physical vs mental bondage. If one is mentally bound then one is continually choosing to submit. If one is physically bound then choice, to a certain extent, is removed and one is free to fight, struggle or relax into the bonds.

Q: Are you one of many slaves? Are you the head of
the house slave? and how do you feel about
situation? Are you poly also? or does this just not
concern or bother you?
A: I am not poly nor is the Dom. If I were to switch, poly would be easy for me as a Domme…for some reason it’s not as a submissive.

Q: Define a fuck toy slave and what is the difference
between her and you.
A : Fuck toy slave…hmmmm. No difference really! LOL It’s a role one plays within a relationship dynamic. A slut. A sex slave. Similar to playing harem girl or nurse or prostitute or little girl.

Q: Does your total passion for pleasing Master get
you past any concerns about other women?
A: Nope. I take this to mean – does deeply needing to please him make it okay in my head for him to play around with others – Nope. The idea is still deeply disturbing.

Q: Was your health record checked first? Do you
have any concerns about health or do you just
leave it to Master to worry about?
A: I am responsible for my own health. Prior to our relationship becoming exclusive, I was seeing several others and routinely had myself tested. I continued this practice for a year after we were together exclusively.

Q: favorite task?
A: LOL sexual service.

Q:hardest task/demand you did?
A: Giving up control of my body to him. This was specifically for the purpose of training my clit to cum faster (something that usually took 30mins+). This was a mental construct. I “gave” my clit to him and he would and does instruct me in how to care for it and discipline it and train it. Oddly enough, this technique has worked wonders. My clit will come in seconds now.

Q: do you work and have a life or are you 100%
taken care of and told what to do all day?
A: He’s not a micromanager and it would drive me crazy if he were. I work from home and have small children.

Q: Describe an average day:
A: Take care of the family in the morning, talk with the Dom either by phone or online, meet with him, be home for the family in the evenings. That’s a very general outline.

Q: On a bondage site, you have posted 29 beautiful
art works where most upload a photograph of
themselves. What is there meaning to you? What
about these works are you wishing to share?
A: Waterhouse has always been a favorite. Intense colors. Vibrant. Passionate. I can look at them for hours.

Q: On the same site, you spiritual poems for people
to read. What is there significance to you?
A: Their signifigance is between the Dom and myself. Expressions of love and bonding.

Q:How does your spirituality affect your bdsm play?
A: I am a practicing solitary witch. The Dom and I practice Tantra as well and incorporate it into our play.

Q: Do you have interests and hobbies and/or a job
or is your day
spent pleasing Master?
A: A good bit of the day is spent pleasing him actually.

Q:Did you get sent to school to learn how to do a
manicure/massage or any other pleasure skills?
A: No.

Q: Do you and/or are you allowed to go clubbing/nightlife,
out on your own, girls night out, etc.?
A: Don’t have girlfriends that live close by. If I did, the Dom probably wouldn’t feel comfortable with clubbing but going out with them would be fine.

Q: Think of a scene you grew from experiencing.
Describe that session, please?
A: Grew in what way? A snippet of one comes to mind. The Dom had been fucking me hard for the longest time. I was so sore it hurt badly. And I reached a point where I simply relaxed and opened up to him both my body and my spirit and let him take me. I let him all the way inside of me. The most profound sense of submission and giving and vulnerability and peace, joy, love came with that opening.

Q:Is getting permanent body jewelry an idea you
entertain? or is it something your Master wishes?
is that something you would do if He told you to
or do you both need to want it?
A: Yes. This is something we have planned to do once we are married and living together.

Q: i have never had a tattoo or piercing because i
have felt my body belongs to Master. None of my
Masters have desired it or done it. Your thoughts?
A: The Dom and I both like the idea of matching tats. We plan to do this as well.

Q: i’ve noticed that in posts and e-mails submissive’s
capitalize “Master”. your thoughts?
A: If someone is trained that way, fine. If I’m responding to someone who does on the fora, then I tend to follow the OP’s capitalization rules. I do tend to capitalize my own Dom’s and will to a select few others. That’s just what feels right to me.

Q: and your favorite toy is (only one)?
A: Hard one….hmmmmm. His hands, my g-force vibe, my glass dildo.

Q: favorite toy set up while masturbating?
A: Little bullet egg…very powerful.

Q: what if your Master did not find you attractive
or did not want you sexually. Would you be happy
serving him as he wished, serving his sadistic
needs only?
A: Nope. That would be the end of our relationship.

Q: once one just gives up the mental garbage and
simply obeys, it all gets much easier. your thoughts?
A: Sounds like a cop-out for the weak-minded. One submits or one does not. One never gives up responsibility for their own actions and their consequences.

Q: Eating a diet is premium. (after all – what is
coming out of one end is from what you put in the
other.) what vitamins do you take?
A: Centrum and a vitamin C that the Dom recommended when I have a cold. I don’t diet. Diets teach poor lifeskills. I maintain a balance of my foods and I exercise.

Q: What are the qualities regarding yourself that
you feel are the most important?
A: In what context? Overall? My empathy. Not sympathy…I pity no one unless they are truly pitiful. I respect other’s paths. I have been told I am kind. I do try to be.