Childs Pose

Standing Forward Bend

Downward Dog

Three Legged Dog

(switch legs)

Lunge

(switch legs)

Crescent Lunge

Warrior i

Warrior ii

Reverse Warrior

Revolved Triangle Pose

Plank

Upward Dog

Cat & Cow

Even before the COVID-19 maintaining Lung health has been part of my self care routines.  Breathing air pollution, second hand smoke (yes, even walking down the street – there are times when I will walk into a cigar/cigarette or marijuana air bomb) isn’t good for your lungs.

I don’t smoke.  If you do, it isn’t good for lung health.  Period.  This includes vaping.

I love steaming my lungs in the morning.  I have one of those personal Vick’s steamers I bought at the drug store.  If I feel a cold coming on, I add a Vicks Vapor ring, but for general use, I just steam with water.  It clears my sinus’s,  my whole head feels better.  This isn’t a do one time thing, for best results, you steam at least a couple times a week.  There isn’t long term results unless you keep steaming regularly.

As a submissive, I bend over a lot of laps for spankings, or for impact play on my bottom.  When I do, if my head is clogged with mucus it all drains forward and I feel pressure inside my face.  Uncomfortable at best, running nose and headache at worse.  With steaming, I do not have these conditions.

Regular exercise is good for your body and mental health.  I am walker.  I have a dog.  Even our short walks for 20 minutes at a good pace will increase my heart rate, make me breathe deeper, increase oxygen to my lungs, improves circulation, makes me glisten, all the things that assist your lungs in working more efficiently.

I love Green Tea. Hot.  Even when I am traveling and staying in a hotel room, nice ones include a little machine and Green Tea.  Green Tea reduces inflammation in your lungs.  It is refreshing to just take a few minutes, breathe deeply, center myself, drink my tea.   Next time you feel overwhelmed I suggest you try it.

There are foods I eat to reduce inflammation.   I add a handful of dried cherries to my oatmeal in the morning.  I love beans and lentils – soups for lunch with these is a bonus.  I cook with extra virgin Olive oil.  So good for your body.  Olive oil contains oleic acid and oleocanthal, two nutrients that can fight inflammation and has Vitamin K and E.

To obtain some specific antioxidants, try to include the following in your diet:

Vitamin A: Salmon, butter, Cheddar Cheese, hard boiled egg, trout, mango, cantaloupe, grapefruit, sweet potato, kale

Vitamin C:  acerola cherries, guavas, thyme, parsley, kale, Brussels spouts

Vitamin E: sunflower seeds, almonds, pine nuts, rainbow trout, salmon

Beta-carotene: carrots, sweet potatoes, podded peas, spinach, summer squash, and apricots

Lycopene: guava, tomatoes, cherries, raspberries, grapefruit, papaya, mango and watermelon

Lutein: Kale, green peas, summer squash, pumpkin, Brussels sprouts, carrots, Pistachios

Selenium: Brazil nuts, fish, oatmeal, bananas, hard boiled eggs, yogurt

These are foods I eat all the time.

Lung health is an important part of Self Care. 

Live well, Be happy.

I love my life.

Ann

This article is written by Tony McGuinn for AskSubmissann.

For centuries now, people have been crediting the Marquis de Sade for the “invention” of BDSM.  In fact, he gets so much credit that sadism was named after him… a legacy that the state of Sade was probably not entirely happy about, especially since the Marquis’s real name was “Donatien Alphonse François.”

But, more importantly, the Marquis didn’t invent sadism.  He simply wrote prolifically about it.  It was his fetish, and his brand was a very specific type of violent, non-consensual sadism.  Elsewhere in the world, however, consensual BDSM practices flourished.  And nowhere did sexual appetites have a broader freedom than in the wide, open plains of the American frontier.

Prostitution and erotic services were legal in the United States until 1910-1915, when states began outlawing them as part of the “temperance” movement, which also went after alcohol.

Prostitution and erotic services were legal in the United States until 1910-1915, when states began outlawing them as part of the “temperance” movement, which also went after alcohol.

The writings of the Marquis de Sade were penned in the 1780s but not widely distributed or spoken of.  Indeed, the term “sadism” wasn’t coined for another century, by German psychologist Richard von Krafft-Ebing.  Meanwhile, like-minded individuals were writing their own books on the matter: in the late 1800s, John Camden Hotten republished “Fashionable Lectures: Composed and Delivered with Birch Discipline,” a series of stories from the 1750s including “Female Flagellants,” “Lady Bumtickler’s Revels,” and “Madame Birchini’s Dance.”  In 1748, John Cleland published “Memoirs of the Woman of Pleasure,” the story of Fanny Hill that also featured themes of bondage, discipline, sadomasochism, and power exchange.

But on the American frontier, these high-minded writings from across the pond were rare, if not impossible, to come across.  Cowboys were typically uneducated and, even if they were literate, toting books around on horseback wasn’t practical.  For the men of the frontier, life was nomadic… at least until the Madams showed up.

The first true towns of the Wild West owe their creation to the women who saw a business opportunity.  Saloons and brothels sprang up to capitalize on the appetites of men.  Work camps with tents evolved into the first true towns, with women providing more than just entertainment, but also laundry services, education, and discipline.

What’s more, these brothels contributed heavily to the local economies, not merely through the exchange of money, but by paying for business licenses and fees to operate their businesses legally.  According to Wikipedia, prostitution was a $6.3 million business in 1858, more than both the shipping the brewing industries combined.

So what’s all this have to do with BDSM?

In a lucrative economy with many competing women, the women who offered more exotic services got more attention.  Saloon “parlor games” often involved spanking or paddling.  (Whether the men were losing on purpose to get a free paddling or not is up to debate.)  Brothels offered a variety of girls who themselves offered a variety of “services,” not all of them sexual, but certainly all of them erotic.

To this end, many women in the old west carried clutches, fans, fly swatters, or hand-brooms.  In some vintage boudoir photos, hand-brooms are prominently featured on the walls, a winking suggestion of what erotic services the girls might offer.  And it wasn’t only the working girls who employed fans, canes, whips, or brooms; Fannie Porter, whose “boarding house” in San Antonio was the favorite of Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid, was rumored to have chased policemen with brooms after they tried to charge her girls with vagrancy.

Some saloons had “jail cells” or other cages where their girls could entertain.  The famous Bird Cage Theatre in Tombstone, AZ had 14 “cribs” (or beds), made to look like cages, suspended from its ceiling, a decoration that would later give rise to the go-go dancing cages of the 1970s.  If the Bird Cage sounds familiar to you, it’s probably because this “theater” was among the favorite brothels of wild west heroes such as Doc Holliday and “Diamond” Jim Brady.  (At least, it was before Doc Holliday and his paramour “Big Nose Kate” opened up their own saloon, The Grand Hotel, in 1880, also in Tombstone.)

Many brothels (billed as “theaters,” “hotels,” or “saloons”) had suggestive names.  In addition to the “Bird Cage,” there was the famous “Stockade” of Salt Lake City, UT, built in 1908.  A self-enclosed red light district whose construction was overseen by a local Madam, the Stockade was run by Dora Topham (known to her clients as “Belle London”), and included its own jail cell that was more for humiliation than for actual punishment.

In calling cards, license pictures, and glam shots of the wild west, women hinted at their services in titillating ways.  Some, for example, show women shooting pool: a distinctly un-lady-like activity, but one that would allow the woman to be featured holding a birch cane.  Others include women holding lassos or whips, despite not necessarily being cowgirls.  The purpose of ropes and whips was left up the imagination.

The overwhelming majority of brothels were headed by women who themselves had once been prostitutes and had “graduated” to the title of “Madam.”  Now businesswomen, they were generally fiercely protective of their girls, and offered a key role in their societies, paying for education, healthcare, churchs, and other community services.  One, Julia Bulette, donated so much money to the town of Virginia City, NV, that she was made an honorary firefighter, and in one of the last portraits ever taken of her, is shown posing with a fireman’s helmet.  Another, Pearl de Vere, offered regular medical exams and treatment for her girls in addition to letting them keep 40% of their pay.  (A visit to Pearl’s brothel, “The Old Homestead,” costs $250 a night… $6500 in today’s money.)

Madams might not have been “working girls” themselves but they were not afraid to act as Dommes, carrying with them riding crops, whips, clutches filled with rocks, and ivory-handled pistols, all items they could use to protect themselves, their businesses, their girls, and their clients.  (And they weren’t afraid to use them, either.  “Big Nose” Kate once broke Doc Holiday out of jail.)

Brothels like the House of Mirrors, the Bird Cage, the Stockade, The Grand Theatre, and Fannie Porter’s boarding house were places that offered exotic settings for exotic services, includingsilk sheets, electric chandeliers, and champagne, all rarities in the unsettled west.  There were so many brothels that they became a staple of most old-west towns, and some towns began publishing guidebooks to their red-light districts.  San Antonio and New Orleans both had “Blue Book” guides which one could purchase for 25¢ that billed themselves as “Directories of the Sporting District… an accurate guide to those who are seeking a good time.”

One of the best-remembered advertisements was that of Diddlin’ Dora’s, a “dance hall” in Deadwood, SD, which said it offered “The Three D’s: Dinin’, Drinkin’, and Dancin’!”  According to the Madam, Dora Dufran, it was “a place where you can bring your mother.”  This motto was meant ironically; Diddlin’ Dora’s, as the name implied, was a place for exotic pleasures, and one patron was famously quoted as saying, “I wouldn’t want my mother to know I had ever been there.”  Dora Dufran was a friend of the famous Calamity Jane, who herself was a working girl and a co-Madam in Deadwood.

The women of the West built their own culture, and most had likely never heard of the Marquis de Sade.  Exotic and erotic services offered in the Wild West were a mixture of their own invention, and what their customers wanted from them.  BDSM is prevalent across many cultures, not just 18th century Europe.  On the American frontier, it prospered for over a century, a home-grown practice that created a new class of feminine self-made millionaires, and helped build and sustain entire towns.

(A note on conversion rates: $1 in 1880 was worth about $25 today.)

FURTHER READING AND SOURCES:

Print:

• Birchell, Donna Blake. “Wicked Women of New Mexico.”  The History Press; First Edition, First Printing edition (March 4, 2014).
• Enss, Chris. “Wicked Women: Notorious, Mischievous, and Wayward Ladies from the Old West.”  TwoDot; First edition (February 20, 2015)
• Rutter, Michael. “Boudoirs to Brothels: The Intimate World of Wild West Women.”  Farcounty Press (October 10, 2014).
• Rutter, Michael. “Upstairs Girls: Prostitution in the American West.”  Farcountry Press (September 1, 2005).
• Seagraves, Anne. “Soiled Doves: Prostitution in the Early West.”  Wesanne Publications; First Edition edition (June 1, 2003).

On the Web:

• Wikipedia Links to early writings on BDSM:
  • https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fashionable_Lectures
  • https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fanny_Hill
• True West Magazine.
  • “Soiled Doves” by Jan Mackell. https://truewestmagazine.com/soiled-doves-good-girls-gone-bad/
  • “Queen of the Soiled Doves” by Jana Bommersbach https://truewestmagazine.com/queen-of-the-soiled-doves/
• Miss Cellnia’s “6 Wild Women of the Wild West” on Mental Floss. https://www.mentalfloss.com/article/51726/6-wild-women-wild-west
• Harvey, Ian. “Fannie Porter – The Most Iconic ‘Madame’ of the Old West.”  The Vintage News.  (Nov 15, 2016.)  Available online at: https://www.thevintagenews.com/2016/11/15/fannie-porter-the-most-iconic-madame-of-the-old-west/
• Legends of America.
  • The Madams: https://www.legendsofamerica.com/madames/
  • The “Painted Ladies:” https://www.legendsofamerica.com/sd-deadwoodpaintedladies/
  • Fannie Porter: https://www.legendsofamerica.com/tx-fannieporter/
• Tamar Altebarmakian’s “The 12 Most Notorious Prostitutes and Madams of the World West” on Ranker. https://www.ranker.com/list/famous-old-west-madams/tamar-altebarmakian

Photo Credits:

• Barns, Sarah. “Cracking the Whip: Fascinating photographs show prostitutes who rule men in the 19th century Wild West… and went on to become millionaire and national heroes.”  The Sun, UK.  (June 15, 2017).  Available at:  https://www.thesun.co.uk/living/3805970/fascinating-photographs-show-prostitutes-who-ruled-men-in-the-19th-century-wild-west-and-went-on-to-become-millionaires-and-national-heroes/
• Fyfe, Johnny. “Wild West Women Circa 1800-1900.”  The Johnny Fyfe Portfolio, available at: https://johnfyfe.org/portfolio_page/wild-west-women-circa-1800-1890/

• White, Debbie. “Sin City: Fascinating photos show the brothels of the Wild West and the hard-as-nails women who worked there.”  The Sun, UK.  (May 23, 2019).  Available at: https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/9129922/photos-brothels-wild-west-hard-women-who-worked-there/

Domestic flights are flying.  My plane on return to Los Angeles from Philadelphia was half full.  I expect the same.  I do the sanitizing where I sit on the plane thing but I have always done this but you never know what the person before you did in that seat, if they had a cold, if they wiped their dirty hands everywhere, etc.

I am very aware of common surfaces, I wash my hands, I carry sanitizer and use it as needed.  I don’t touch my face because I was taught to as a child.  Touching your face gives you blemishes and colds/flu, etc.  My Grandmother was very keen on not touching your face and I was disciplined not to.

While restaurants cannot have in restaurant dining, many are offering take out and the hotels have in room dining on a limited menu.  I am staying at very nice hotels.

I am not a convention or a large group gathering, I am one healthy person.  You may come see me.  If you are from a place with curfew, make a daytime appointment.

If you are not feeling well, if you have COVID-19 symptoms, stay at home and self isolate yourself.  Do this for everyone.  

Do not trust the media or interpretations of what is happening.  They have their own agenda.

Govt. Center for Disease Control:  https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html

I am not traveling Abroad, I am traveling Domestic.  

Govt. on Travel :  https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/traveladvisories/ea/covid-19-information.html

See you in Boston for fun times. 

Be safe.  Do the things.  Wash your hands, beware of common touch surfaces, don’t touch your face.  Be kind to one another.  Please.

I read this question a LOT in my Inbox, in social media Inboxes, and I always wonder why is it asked?

Jane Austen must have pondered the inevitable social demand that women marry, as it was the only financial and social answer for a woman who wanted a positive view of herself in society in her day.  A woman in her time was not allowed to own property.  That was 200 years ago.  Surely, we have progressed since then, that as a society we don’t frown upon women who wish to be independent?  We don’t call a single woman over 21 years old a spinster anymore, do we?

I was married for 7 years.  I was divorced.  It was a horrible experience in which I found myself not seen, not heard, not understood, held as a pretty trophy, not supported in growing.  Let’s just sum it up that it was not an experience I ever wanted to repeat.

I wanted the power to make my own decisions, to manage my own money, to steer my own course.  I am responsible for my own happiness.  I have made mistakes along the way, and I learned from them.  Being independent and supporting myself, making my own way has been thrilling to me, has spurred me to get up every morning and pursue being the best me.

I am in a committed relationship with myself.  I do self care.  I think about what I eat, do morning yoga, stretches, lift weights, do my administration work, schedule my appointments, work, garden, walk and hike.  I strive to have a balanced life.

I am in a very committed relationship with my dog, Ollie (Oliver Queen), who is my walking/hiking/yoga partner, best buddy and all around companion.  You, emotionally, cannot compete with him.  He is all about me being happy and taking care of him.  We have a schedule, a routine, he keeps me focused on it when I tend to be easily distracted.

I am in a committed relationship with my friends.  Almost all of my friends do Animal Role Play events and activities with me.  I also like to have my friends over to my home, I like to cook for them and enjoy an evening of delicious food and thought provoking conversation.

The avenues open to you to spend time with me are to support and attend Animal Role Play events which I share with the BDSM/Leather/Kink/Fetish Community and friends.  I do not attend my lifestyle events as a submissive, I attend as a Pony Trainer.

You are welcome to make an appointment and explore with me any kink, fetish, bdsm or companion or conversational adventure you wish.  My time is $350.00 per hour.  I will ask you for a deposit of $100.00 which is non-refundable if you cancel for any reason.

I sincerely hope this question is not from having a fantasy of dating and being my boyfriend or lover and being with me for “free”.  I don’t believe there is any actual FREE relationship, everybody asks for something that involves time, service, gifts, touch, sex, words. I have unfortunately already been a trophy, and I certainly don’t want to be someone’s Robin Pachino trophy.  I am really good with it being a fair deal that you give me $ for my time, we do the quality time, and you walk away, no strings attached.  This is an honest, uncomplicated relationship I understand.  This is a successful relationship.

Please make an appointment,  Come and have fun, Tell me your dog stories, tell me about your garden, what book you are reading, laugh, be held, let the good times roll.

Thank you for listening.

This is what I will be bringing on tour this year, starting March 2nd in Washington DC

Clover Clamps, Weighted Barrel Clamps, Rubber tipped clips

Finger Braided whip, Fuzzy paddle, Leather Paddle, London Tanner Paddle

Deerskin Flogger, nylon tassel flogger, 2 crops, paint stick, leather slapper

Bunny flogger, bunny skin, 2 sized ball gags, blindfold

leather neck collar and leather leash, carobiners (assorted sizes), door attachment suspenders, leather cuffs for wrists and ankles, black cotton rope no chord cut into smaller sizes, green nylon rope

Strap on with small silicone dildo or large silicone optional vibrating dildo, remote controlled silicone skinned butt plus, silicone anal beads (2 sizes), tristan butt plus (silicone)  and small/medium/large nitrile gloves

Small/Medium/Large vibrating gloves, nipple and pussy inflate cups with chapstick, blindfold, massage vibrator

ear plus, tickler (not pictured), rechargeable Magic Wand, silicone skin vaginal vibrator, clit vibrator (silicone skin), remote controlled butterfly, small bullet vibrator.

TROJAN™ Ultra Thin Lubricated Condoms are thinner than standard TROJAN™ Latex Condoms – designed for a more natural feeling.

• Low latex odor
• Thinner than standard TROJAN™ latex condoms
• Special reservoir end for extra safety
• Made from premium quality latex to help reduce the risk of pregnancy and STIs
• Each condom is electronically tested to help ensure reliability

MAGNUM™ Lubricated Condoms – The Gold Standard™ in comfort and protection.

• Larger than standard latex condoms for extra comfort
• Tapered at the base for a secure fit
• Silky smooth lubricant for comfort and sensitivity
• Special reservoir end for extra safety
• Made from premium quality latex to help reduce the risk of pregnancy and STIs
• Each condom is electronically tested to help ensure reliability

MAGNUM™ XL Lubricated Condoms are intended for men who feel that current regular and large size condoms are too small. Other men may experience slippage with this extra large size condom. The Gold Standard in comfort and protection.

• Larger than original MAGNUM™
• 30% larger than standard condoms
• Tapered at the base for a secure fit
• Silky smooth lubricant for comfort and sensitivity
• Special reservoir end for extra safety
• 30% larger than standard condoms
• Each condom is electronically tested to help ensure reliability

SKYN ORIGINAL

• Made from SKYNFEEL™, a non-latex soft material that you’ll find barely noticeable but as strong as premium latex.
• Lubricated with long-lasting ultra-smooth lubricant
  • Ideal for people with latex allergies or latex sensitivity
• Straight shape with reservoir end
• Combines the strength of premium latex with the sensitivity of an ultra thin condom
• Nominal width: 53mm

sometimes I will have:

TROJAN™ BARESKIN™ Lubricated Condoms – Trojan’s thinnest latex condom ever.

• 50% THINNER than our Ultra Ribbed Ecstasy™ Condom
• Silky smooth lubricant for comfort and sensitivity
• Special reservoir end for extra safety
• Made from premium quality latex to help reduce the risk of pregnancy and STIs
• Each condom is electronically tested to help ensure reliability

If you want something else, bring it with you.  😉

1. Always Show Respect

You might have a bit of cognitive dissonance when you are paying for the experience of realizing your fantasy or actually doing a fetish or kink you have only thought about or have only seen pictures of before.  It’s the whole issue of doing something you fantasize about that also scares or disgusts you OR you are adventuring into the unknown, something you have never done before — and this is true for those that solicit women, as well as those that solicit men. Regardless of how you feel about us personally, we are still human. And that means we’re owed respect. Here are some ground rules we’d like you to follow:

• Sex workers still retain the right to say no.
• You should always pay for the activities upfront and have exact change, or if your bills go over, you give that and it is on you.
• Don’t make a sex worker ask for payment. Everything will go much better if you pay at the very beginning.
• Unless a sex worker agrees ahead of time, always plan to wear a condom.
• Never use violence.  Negotiate your play.  The difference between abuse and bdsm play that includes erotic spanking, flogging, etc. is agreed upon negotiation, which makes it consensual.
• Unless other arrangements have been made, you must pay in cash; arriving with gifts, alcohol, drugs, gift cards or a credit card won’t suffice.
• Do not haggle nor barter the sex workers price.  It demonstrates a lack of respect of their limits.  Think about it: you ask the price, they state it and then you are saying no and moving the goal post.  If a sex worker can’t trust you to respect their price why should they trust to respect any of their limits?
• And finally, remember that sex workers will have boundaries (limits) which are personal to them.  Respect them.

2. What You See In Porn Isn’t Necessarily What We Want IRL

When watching any type of porn, what you see on the screen is performed by actors and actresses. That means it’s an act; it isn’t always a real expression of what real people want and do in real life.

Keep that in mind as you’re begging for us to perform calisthenics in the bedroom. While many sex workers are more than happy to indulge your fantasies, they still may decline (see the last bullet above).

That’s why it’s important to agree ahead of time as to what will go down. Before diving into the fun stuff, make sure you agree on things, such as:

• What type of play and sex will happen, and for how long.
• The exact price.    
• The precise venue (keeping in mind that the sex worker will want to communicate locale to a friend in advance).
• Expectations, including whether penetration will take place, nudity, role play, toys, how a fantasy plays out for you or dressing up.

3. Master Some Basic Lingo

Words matter. Whenever there’s an exchange of money, it’s doubly important to speak the same language. As in every industry, sex workers share common lingo; get the terms right and you’ll have a much smoother, safer interaction.

Most sex workers prefer the term “sex worker” over “prostitute” or “whore.”  For one, the latter has derogatory connotations, and for another, it dismisses the fact that the sex worker is, in fact, working.  Yes, you can negotiate “name calling humiliation” making it consensual.

GFE stands for girlfriend experience, and it comprises your traditional, vanilla sex that you’d expect in any normal relationship. Cuddling, kissing, oral, penetration — all the usual acts of affection you’d expect with an emotional bond. Except there isn’t any nagging nor any laundry nor any “honey do list” to worry about.

A-Levels means anal penetration.

Click for a full list of Hobbyist Acronyms . 

Sex workers are often compensated according to the amount of time together.  If you ask for a “quickie”, expect 10 to 20 minutes of a person’s time. A “short time” generally means about a half hour and an “all-nighter” means you’ll get to play until morning.  (I personally have a minimum of one hour and very rarely do an all-nighter because I sleep at night.  I am simply not a night person.)

4. Keep It Clean

This one has multiple meanings.

On a very basic level, it means that you should shower, brush your teeth, and take care of basic hygiene needs before meeting up. This is just a common courtesy that makes it more enjoyable for everyone involved.  If you are coming from a gym and want to take a shower first, ask if you can do that.  Most sex workers will have zero problem letting you shower first.  Ask if the time you take to shower counts into time of your session so you do not assume anything and have ruined expectations.

It also means that you should do your best to arrive sober. Not drunk, not high.  If you are wanting to be super drunk or high, not fully aware, not fully present, why are you showing up?  You are paying for an experience, be sober so that you may experience it.  A drink or having a drink together is different.

Finally, it means plan on wearing a condom. Always. Sex workers are concerned about their sexual health, and whether it be for oral or penetrative, chances are high that they’ll expect you to dress for the occasion.